Posts by Cassandra

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  • Acceptance of scars – public

    I really don’t accept my scars when I am in public, I mean – I hate them.  I don’t like them showing and I don’t like talking about them.  I am so ashamed of them… and my scars are getting older and older, but I still can’t seem to accept them.  Around myself I am…

  • Exercise and dealing with old scars

    I have decided to try and get healthy, the right way, by exercising more… however it is summer time and well, I have scars.  I wouldn’t go out in public with “open stuff” because that is not how I deal with my self-injury.  I don’t like others to know or see or anything like that……

  • Handling the slip-ups…

    How do you handle your slip-ups?  Do you punish yourself more – or do you try and reason it out? Why I am asking this is because I fear my first major slip-up in S.I….  I have been doing great in terms of refraining from S.I., but I just don’t know much longer I can continue…

  • Plastic surgery? Reconstructive surgery?

    I am thinking about meeting with a surgeon to have some of my scars removed or reduced.  Not all my scars, just some, the ones that are more socially difficult for me to deal with.  I am in recovery and I am very scared about making this step – but I want to know if…

  • Summer time and “skin boundaries”?

    This is going to be my second summer in recovery and I am still working on my physical boundaries with “the public” in terms of what to show and what not to show, as I have a problem with the scars left over from my years and years of self-abuse.  I officially started my road…

  • 3 months…

    Today marks THREE MONTHS without injuring!  I have had a couple of slip-ups with other forms of self-injury, but not with my injuring.  My first goal was 40days and now I am finding myself at 84, which is more than double my original goal that I set for myself in June 2007 (when I declared…

  • Working through the “triggers”? Suggestions?

    One of my big triggers lately has been work – my work environment.  I am attempting to change my work environment by drastically changing hours, which should help, but physically being in the building and “doing what I do”… triggers me.  I work at a call center that helps deaf and hard of hearing people…