It’s been about 3 months since I last used any form of SI. I think about it about every other day now. The urge is still there but it’s more a faint flicker rather than a raging blaze. Today I found out that my sister is pregnant again. It was a bit of a blow since I’ve been struggling with infertility for over a year now. Even with this news, that flicker still is just a flicker. I’m getting there with a large part of the help I received from a great, understanding therapist. I once went 6 years without my main way of SI. There is hope. I have more of a reason to continue on this path – I’m going back to school to finish my counseling degree. To be an effective helper, I need to be free of SI, but not necessarily rid of it, because it is part of my past and part of who I am as a person. Free of the control that SI has over me. It wasn’t easy. It was a long process of trial and error and practice over the course of a year to find what would help the urges.
Hopefully what has helped me will help someone else.
Recite a list of colors, plants, vehicles, animals – anything that you can list off many things.
Call a close friend to say the list to.
Find something to ground you in different locations – focus on the color of something, a smell, a taste, a texture.
Find a safe replacement/distraction – squeeze an ice cube in your fist.
Remove yourself from the location you commonly use SI when you have an urge.