Hi I’m not sure where to begin. I just found this website. I’ve been SI since June 2014 due to past traumas, home issues and I was in a unhealthy relationship and it was a way to cope. A lot of things have changed since I started. I have had 3 bumps in the road since then and I recently have decided to try to quit. I’ve been I think 3 days clean. I’ve spent the last hour and a half on google trying to find healthy coping skills. I’m not sure what will actually work. Does anyone have any suggestions that have worked for them.
For me, I have found several things that have worked over the five-year period I have struggled with this. Praying to the Lord, hugging someone (or a pillow if nobody is around), journaling, focusing on my breathing (when I’m anxious or angry), being around others so as not to be alone when I feel the urge to self-harm, making things for myself that I love (like herbal teas), and distracting myself through things such as reading. One thing that has also helped me tremendously is having an accountability partner. I’m not talking about someone who is going to judge you when you mess up (believe me, I’ve messed up multiple times), but someone who will walk alongside you in this journey of healing. I hope these ideas are helpful! 🙂
Something that really helps me is to just distract myself with things I like. If I want to make something, I’ll draw something or write a poem. If I want to get away and ignore everyone, I’ll tune out to a book or some good music (or both). If I’m lonely I’ll snuggle with a pillow or wrap myself up in a soft blanket or even just text a friend. It all really depends on what YOU like to do and what makes YOU happy. The trick is finding those things and asking other people like this is a really great way to start.
One thing you should never be afraid to do is to take some time to yourself to do these things. Put yourself first for a little bit and then maybe think about other things after you feel better or your urges are gone 🙂