I just found out that one of my friends is going through a really hard time, her sister has been diagnosed with cancer. This friend has been there for me through a tremendously difficult time in my life, and even if she hadn’t, I would feel as I am feeling right now: this desperate urge to just want to do something for her. I know that I can listen, but does anyone have any other ideas of some things I can do for her?
Your friend may be dealing with a lot right now, and it sounds like you are being a great friend. I think just being there in whatever way she needs is a great. She may need someone to talk to about her concerns, fears and other feelings. I think being able to offer a comforting ear and shoulder is great. I have found that when I have had friends who are struggling (because of family issues) “out of the blue” things were a nice comfort. For example, sending a thoughtful card, maybe even a small care package – just something to say you are thinking about them, and are there for them. If you were in her shoes what do you think you would find helpful? Sometimes looking at it from that perspective can help too in knowing what things you might want to do.