I hate it when people try to be funny or something when I am having a really hard time. I know they are just trying to help, but it really doesn’t help at all. What also doesn’t help is the fact that they tell me that my situation could have been worse. That just makes me really angry, and makes me feel even worse than I already do for the negative feelings that I am having surrounding my situation.
I don’t like to hear “it could have been worse” or “other people have it worse than you”. Those two phrases really irritate me. Everyone needs to have their feelings validated and honored. These phrases do the exact opposite. No matter who you are someone will always have it worse, or the situation could always be worse. It doesn’t mean that you can’t feel what you want to feel or that those feelings are any less important, real or valid.