So my mum is trying to change the custody to 50-50. She took my dad BACK to court and that’s been going on for a while now. The other day my dad told me that she wants to make the schedule based off of his work schedule. He has this really weird night/day 3 or 2 day rotation (not even gonna attempt to explain it). I told him I don’t like that my little brother does that schedule and don’t like the idea AT ALL! Then my mum asked me and I told her the same thing. Well tonight my dad tells me that we might be doing the schedule for the first semester. It’s my freshman year this year, that plus everything else… I can’t handle I told my dad that I literally WON’T do it! I don’t think I even CAN! I just don’t know what to do, I told him I’d do the every other week but not this. I just don’t think he understands that I can’t do it.
I am glad that you were able to speak your mind about this. I am so so proud of you for saying exactly what is on your heart regarding this very upsetting matter. I hope it all works out for you.
I know in the state that I live in and the state that I grew up in had an age limit on when the parents were the one “choosing” who the child goes with. When I was 13, I was forced to decide and it was frightening and that decision forever changed my life — I wish I wouldn’t have had to have made it because it made both “families” angry.
What about talking with your school counselor or your private counselor (if you are in counseling/ seeing a therapist) and ask them to help you talk with your parents about this? Can you get another adult to help be an advocate for you? If you don’t have a counselor, what about going to a trusted adult and see if they can help?
It’s not really my decision, they’re in court so it’s the judge’s decision. The county I live in looks favorably upon 50-50 custody, so I could very easily be put that way because of that. I tried to tell them I will do the every other week but the whole reason my mum is doing this is because she doesn’t think my aunt should be watching us when my dad’s at work. My aunt has 2 kids; her oldest (Allison) is special needs and she’s raised her basically on her own because Allison’s dad and my aunt divorced when she was young, then her son (James) just graduated in the top 20 of his class and she did that again by herself because his dad died when he was a baby. My point is she’s perfectly capable of taking care of us but my mum doesn’t think that and the court wants 50-50. I wish my opinion mattered with this, but it’s just to see how my mum will do with us to see if she can before it becomes permanent.