So I found my friends tumblr blog that she keeps secret from everyone and turns out she’s back to SH after being recovered for years. She also used to be anorexic and so far hasn’t started back on that. I don’t want her to get mad that I got her blog or anything, I just want her to know I’m here for her like she’s here for me. She’s one of the few people that knows about my SI and I feel like I owe it to her to help. I’m thinking of just messaging her as anonymous to tell her some of this… I don’t really know though.
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Umm, I recentlly found out that a long time friend of mine was starting to SI, so I was in sort of the situation you are. I know that Im not a very confrontational person, but in this situation i think that a very calm and caring confrontation (for lack of a better word) is necessary. I just told her that I would be there for her when ever and where ever she needed me. I don’t think that being pushy in situations like this is good and its definently not productive so, it might work to just let her know you’re there for her, no matter what. Sorry if this sounds kinda pushy, I guess, I’m new and im still trying to figure out how this works. But, i hope you and your friend can work this out!
I think everyone deserves to be helped. I really think you should tell someone who can definitely help her…. her parents? I don’t know somebody who can go to all extents to help. You sound like a really good friend, but a friend can only do so much. Maybe someone with a little more power in your friend’s life should know.
I would say message her as yourself, letting her know those things, but make sure to give her space. If she is in some desperate spot at this point, I think she will be very very grateful that someone who is her friend reached out to her. It amazes me how much a kind word from friends, them letting me know that I can talk to them or whatever, has helped me in my darkest moments.