I am so hurt.  I shared much of myself with someone who I knew also si , and he judged me and kept me at arms length, even though I knew that he was vulnerable himself, and in need of a friend.  In a sense, I feel used by what has happened between us. I see him frequently, and he understands my situation, but is distanced from me.  He tries to make me feel jealous, even though this is harmful to me and my psyche.  I feel that he craves an emotional imbalance, and I want so desperately to build an enduring friendship. Someone who is there for me at all times, and I for him. Why does he hurt me so?