I found out about my 14 y/o daughter’s SI in Sept.  She broke up with her bf and I saw a mark on her.  It startled me and I completely overreacted.  I went about it all wrong.  I immedately looked up info on this and realized that I shouldn’t have freaked out like I did.  I later went in and told her I understand that I shouldn’t have reacted the way I did and I was sorry.  I told her had and he doesn’t understand at all.  I, once being a teenage girl, understand the confusion and emotions that we go through because I lived it.  I didn’t SI, but I was a mess mentally most of the time.  I also did not like to talk to my mom…but I have had a good relationship with her in my adult years.  I just talked to my daughter briefly and asked if she would like to meet the therapist.  She said no.  I asked her is she was suicidal.  She said that “she wouldn’t come to me with her problems anyway”.  I asked her if she considered herself “emo” because she looks exactly like that.   She said “no, emo’s a style”.  I found horror pictures on her tumblr the other night and I almost passed out.  I confronted her about it and she said “you know I’ve always liked that stuff”.  She has always been facinated by the dark…but she also loves cute things.  She has always been very sensitive, but this has me worried beyond belief.  I am always walking on eggshells…both my husband and I are.  She gives us one word answers unless she wants something (I know this is quite typical for a teen anyway).  Can anyone give me some thoughts on what or how I should approach her?  I just told her that everyone needs a soft place to fall.  She said she wouldn’t come to me.  I told her I love her and that was that.  I don’t know what to do but I’m tired and depressed because of this.  I mean literally depressed – can’t sleep, can’t eat.  I don’t work outside the home so I’m home all day dwelling on it.  My husband is there, but not good with emotional stuff.  I wish there was a simple answer.  I pray every night and day that she will find peace.  That our whole family will find peace.  My heart goes out to all you other parents and kids who are suffering from this.  I will pray for you…please send some prayers for us.