With the encouragement of my girlfriend, I told my mom I needed to see a therapist. It didn’t go like I imagined it would. She wouldn’t stop nagging about why I want to see one, and I don’t want to tell her, I don’t have to. Now I’m mad that I even told her. I only want to go if my girlfriend can be there (we’re very close). I would feel a lot more comfortable if she was there. But my mom says they wouldn’t let her to sit in on the session. I know they will especially when since I won’t talk unless she’s there with me. My mom doesn’t understand and she never will. *Just cause I want to ask, they would let her into the session, right?*
First of all – how great that you did tell your Mom you want to see a therapist. And you don’t need to tell her the specific reasons – you can just say you are anxious or depressed, been going through a lot and need some extra support. We all need support now and then!
Also, the therapist may or may not let your girlfriend in – you have to ask. It really depends. And they may have her come one time, but then see if you can continue on your own. It’s NOT to be mean or exclude her – it’s so that you can develop your own relationship with the therapist. All you can do is ask though, and even your Mom doesn’t know the answer until you speak with the therapist (I’m a therapist, by the way).
If you want more suggestions for finding a therapist and getting help, feel free to call our 800 number ( 800-366-8288 ) – it’s a confidential information line – you’d leave a message and we would give you a call back to answer your questions.
Take it one step at a time. You can get through this hard time. You took the hardest step and asked for help – you are quite brave.
Pam