Things will get better keep believing that ok. I no you must feel like no one understands your situation but im sure alot of people on here, even if were not going through the same thing your going through, can relate to you and your feelings. Itll get better. Were here for you.
It’s hard when my close friend doesn’t realize that some days i just need a friend. But when i try talking to her her first response is “call your counselor” thing is it wasn’t like this before so i’m starting to push away. Some days i just need a friend and that’s it. I have these problems and the eating disorder and self harm is apart of me in some sense. It’s like i want this.
I hate to hear that. I totally get just needing a friend. I definitely feel the same way and I wish I had that. I have an ED and self harm as welllike you said. And they are parts of me, well, us. They always will be in a way. But that doesn’t mean we can’t still fight it and win. They don’t have to be the dominating parts of who we are
But now because of this if my friends ask me how i’m doing i respond with good when in reality i’m not. I’m faking it for my friends now and i just don’t understand what i’m supposed to do. I don’t want this and i try so hard to pretend that i don’t have these problems but i can’t always pretend.
I hate pretending. And eventually you slip and just don’t have the energy to pretend anymore. If you want to tell your friends how you’re really doing, next time they ask how you are, just say something like “you know, I’m not really okay.”
One thing I can say for sure is that it will help in the long run if you stop pretending. I struggle with the same thing. But if you keep suppressing your feelings and what’s going on, it’ll just keep getting worse. You have to try to face it to fix it. If they’re good friends, they’ll listen and support you. Not just get annoyed or not take everything seriously
When I feel completely, hopelessly alone I try and get my mind off of it. Not completely off of it like I’m ignoring it, I just have to do something to make it more bearable. I keep a journal and sketchbook with me at all times. It makes me feel better to write how lonely I am or draw some abstract picture of how I feel. A lot of the time it doesn’t make sense or won’t really look like anything, but it really does make me feel better. If you have someone to talk to, that would help a lot when you feel lonely. Don’t underestimate how much pen and some paper can help! Sorry it took so long to get back to you, I didn’t realize you had responded :/
How can you break an 8 year habit i’ve been in counseling for the past 3 months and i’m not doing it as much but it still haven’t stopped. Is it normal for it to be such a long process?
Thanks Everyone for helping me out. I really do appreciate it.
It’s definitely a process. Three months is just a fraction of how long you’ve been injuring, so of course you haven’t completely stopped. It’s very difficult, but as long as you keep going, you will get there. It’s definitely a big accomplishment that you aren’t doing it as much. Keep fighting it and you will stop eventually. Don’t pressure yourself into trying to recover in a specific amount of time. It’s different for everyone and takes a lot of work and time
Things will get better keep believing that ok. I no you must feel like no one understands your situation but im sure alot of people on here, even if were not going through the same thing your going through, can relate to you and your feelings. Itll get better. Were here for you.
I can try to help, I will do as much as possible, I promise you
I don’t know your whole situation/story, but I know I will get some of how you’re feeling. It’s worth a try to talk
It’s hard when my close friend doesn’t realize that some days i just need a friend. But when i try talking to her her first response is “call your counselor” thing is it wasn’t like this before so i’m starting to push away. Some days i just need a friend and that’s it. I have these problems and the eating disorder and self harm is apart of me in some sense. It’s like i want this.
I hate to hear that. I totally get just needing a friend. I definitely feel the same way and I wish I had that. I have an ED and self harm as welllike you said. And they are parts of me, well, us. They always will be in a way. But that doesn’t mean we can’t still fight it and win. They don’t have to be the dominating parts of who we are
But now because of this if my friends ask me how i’m doing i respond with good when in reality i’m not. I’m faking it for my friends now and i just don’t understand what i’m supposed to do. I don’t want this and i try so hard to pretend that i don’t have these problems but i can’t always pretend.
I hate pretending. And eventually you slip and just don’t have the energy to pretend anymore. If you want to tell your friends how you’re really doing, next time they ask how you are, just say something like “you know, I’m not really okay.”
One thing I can say for sure is that it will help in the long run if you stop pretending. I struggle with the same thing. But if you keep suppressing your feelings and what’s going on, it’ll just keep getting worse. You have to try to face it to fix it. If they’re good friends, they’ll listen and support you. Not just get annoyed or not take everything seriously
What do you do during the moments you feel like you’re completely alone?
When I feel completely, hopelessly alone I try and get my mind off of it. Not completely off of it like I’m ignoring it, I just have to do something to make it more bearable. I keep a journal and sketchbook with me at all times. It makes me feel better to write how lonely I am or draw some abstract picture of how I feel. A lot of the time it doesn’t make sense or won’t really look like anything, but it really does make me feel better. If you have someone to talk to, that would help a lot when you feel lonely. Don’t underestimate how much pen and some paper can help! Sorry it took so long to get back to you, I didn’t realize you had responded :/
How can you break an 8 year habit i’ve been in counseling for the past 3 months and i’m not doing it as much but it still haven’t stopped. Is it normal for it to be such a long process?
Thanks Everyone for helping me out. I really do appreciate it.
It’s definitely a process. Three months is just a fraction of how long you’ve been injuring, so of course you haven’t completely stopped. It’s very difficult, but as long as you keep going, you will get there. It’s definitely a big accomplishment that you aren’t doing it as much. Keep fighting it and you will stop eventually. Don’t pressure yourself into trying to recover in a specific amount of time. It’s different for everyone and takes a lot of work and time