I don’t really know what to say …but i guess im just gonna start with hi lol and im 14 and my mom knows that i hav a problem with self injury and two of my friends know but i don’t know how to stop I’ve tried so many times and every time i do for awhile something small will happen and i end up just exploding inside and do it again… if anyone knows something i can do to stop plz tell bc i really want to stop …therapy and or counciling is out of question though…
Hey, i just turned 15. Im in the exact same situation, i havent SIed in a week, thats pertty awsome for me……uhm….i have tips, so uhm…if you want to email me, i would love to help in any way! Bichasala8@hotmail.com
Hey there!
I could give you some tips, but I think everyone struggles with self injury for their own reasons. For me I had a lot of problems with stress and depression. What worked really well for me was to start doing things to relax and separate myself from the world sometimes. I took up painting and drawing, I also started playing my violin again. As far as the frustration, stress or anger if you have any, I would highly recommend a sport or something similar. I’m in love with bike riding, and I realized that it was making the urge to self injure a lot weaker. I decided that I had to work it into my schedule everyday because it was one of the first positive steps I took to making myself feel better. My biggest suggestion I guess is that you should find something that you love that allows you to escape from all the things you have to deal with everyday.
As far as counseling goes, not to discourage it, but I really struggled with it. I was going to go speak with a woman about my self injuring, but I just felt like she didn’t get what I was going through. Talking does help though! I ended up finding out over the years that several of my friends were struggling with self injury as well. It was nice to talk to other people that JUST GET IT. I was relieved to talk to people that weren’t repulsed by what I was doing to myself, but were quick to get past it and help me feel better.
So work on finding something that can give you the escape that self injury does. It took me a while, but it’s worth the wait. Are your friends and your mom being helpful? You need to have more than someone telling you to stop, you need someone that can help you find out HOW to stop and address whatever it is that causes you to self injure. I’m more than happy to talk to you if you need someone. I don’t know how I would have gotten this far with someone to fall back on when I was struggling. So please PLEASE contact me, even if you feel a little uncomfortable talking to a stranger. I’m here to help you if you need me. srichardson70@gmail.com