I SI, I admit that. This and y eating disorder are ruining my life! They get in the way of everything! There’s this boy…God knows why he likes me…so every since I’ve been having him to talk to…I’ve just felt realy nice, I don’t know, like I can try and be normal. Curse loose cuffed shirts…he saw them, he saw some scarss so he pulled up my whole sleeve, I was too shell-shocked to pull away. He gave me the saddest look. And I knew, everything was over. No more great guy, no more secrecy…I am going to talk to him about this…I have no idea where to start..help?
~Ash
hey there
I think that if this guy knows, it might help you build a more trusting relationship… it might even be easier for you to be open and comfortable if he knows. just talk to him, tell him how much it hurts, how difficult it is to live with every day. but make sure hes okay talking about it, if its not too much a burden for him. and be ready for him to tell an adult. because thats kind of what happened to me. but i got through it, and i’m okay. ive been clean for over a year now! hang on.
Thank you so much. This is such good advice…I was so lost and of course this isn’t going to be easy, but I’ll work on it. I had a moment where things got too much again and I Self Injured. I feel terrible about it now. But I didn’t even realize what I was doing. I let him come to me about the situation, he did, we talked a little bit and it felt pretty bad at the time, but it was good to actually approach the situation. He is not handling it badly, but its not like he can forget about what he saw. He made me tell my parents…they didn’t take it well, but I knew that would happen. I am glad I did it because he is talking to me a little more now. I’ll talk about it only when he feels he can handle it. But I’m not going to lie and say we are the same. I think our relationship is going nowhere which is sad, because I really thought we could be good friends…but I don’t blame him, how things are different. I just wish it could go back to the way it was before, ya know? Thank you again, and congrats on being clean!!!
~Ash
Thanks so much 🙂 this blog was a good lifeline when I needed it. Give him time to register, I’m sure he’ll come around.
“Be strong now, because things will get better. It might be stormy now, but it can’t rain forever.”
Staystrong
Thank you. He is coming around little by little…but then we go right back to square one…but hopefully we’ll get to a good place sooner rather than later…
~ash
Hey ash..im going through a similar thing..theres this guy and he really likes me and i feel so strongly for him..but when he came to know abt my SI problem he said he couldnt take it..he really likes me and made me promise never to do it again…and i just broke the promise today..i feel so helpless 🙁
I’m sorry…that is quite painful..My “friend” came around, but then right when i thought I might have gotten a boyfriend he said he likes someone else too….he chose her…they aren’t even dating…I’m so hurt…Why’d you break your promise? What led to the SI? I know the feeling…its THE WORST! But it’s okay you’ll get through it…
~Ash