My daughter just self injured Sunday and once again did not go to school on Monday. When I discuss this with her she gets upset. We went back to school last Friday and set up her schedule and resbumitted the homebound program and I thought everything was set up the way she wanted. She is nervous about seeing certain friends at school as well as being behind in school. We have offered to help her but she said no. When I approach her about homework she gets upset.
I feel like I am walking on egg shells but I want to see her graduate. She is a senior and only have 3 1/2 months left. She is not going to graduate if she does not start getting serious about the homework and attending classes. I know she has been through a rough time but she needs to start working through this. She has attended the SAFE program and currently is in SAFE Choice. She also sees a therapist once a week.
You need to give her some space. She probably feels smothered if you keep bringing the subject up. You can’t force her to work and go to school, but you can support her through it. Support her, but don’t suffocate her.
I don’t have any good advice on what you should do to help your daughter :/ BUT I just wanted to say how awesome it is that you ARE trying to understand and help and be there for her. I would have given anything back in high school for my mom to have been there for me. I was too scared to tell her though and she wasn’t very observant, or just didn’t care.Even if you don’t know what to say a lot of the time, just her knowing you care probably means a lot to her. It would have meant the world to me.
I am also a senior. I wish you were my mommy. I know your daughter would probably think I am crazy. I remember being there. Being that deep in to it. Anyone who wants to help can feel like an enemy. You’re doing the right thing, though. My mother wasn’t very good with it all. She had a hard time dealing with it. She either would ignore it, tell me to get over it, or say hurtful things like.. (i’m paraphrasing because what she actually said is triggering) “go harm yourself, i don’t care”
Your daughter may not be thankful for you right now.
I promise you, someday she will.
I am thankful for you. I am thankful that some mother is out there helping their daughter.