my dad and i have the same kind of mood disorder stuff. i’ve been on medicine for 2 years now and my dad has never taken any in his life. i know that he thinks he doesn’t have any thing, but every time we get into fights, it’s mostly his fault. i want to help him. he called my mom a bad name today and i feel like they might get a divorce. if he could only accept that he’s sick, then maybe they would last. i don’t want my family to fall apart and i want to talk to him, but he isn’t the talking type. i’m afraid that if they do get a divorce, then i might start SI again. i think trying to help him is more about me. i know that that sounds self fish, but i just don’t want to go back to that dark place. any suggestions to help him get out of denial?
Humm, not completely sure on what to tell you. I’m super sorry that you’re going through this. I will keep you in my prayers no doubt about it. I want you to know that none of this is your fault what so ever! The problems of your family are going to impact you but it is your choice if you let the blame come down on your shoulders. I’ve struggled with this pretty much all my life. My parents had a divorce and I know what can run through your head (what if I… what if I… maybe if I…) When it comes down to it, sadly it is your parent’s decision. If there is a lot of fighting in your house maybe it’s for the best. Ya know what I mean? Reading your blog makes me think that you are a super strong person and that you can get through it. My advice is to definitely talk to him, don’t yell or scream but calmly approach him when he is also calm and not angry. Tell him how much you love him and how much you fear of him leaving. Tell him how much you value your family and how you love it when you all spend time together. Once again- I have faith in you, I know you can do it! You can always e-mail me<3 ShafferEL@mhs-pa.org