I feel extremely horrible. My best friend since kindergarden has messed up her life with substances, and SI. Once she told me about this I said everything I could to change her mind. She just wouldn’t listen. Now she won’t answer my texts or ims. She is completely shutting me out. She just doesn’t want to hear what I have to say. I fell some what responsible for all of this. I Si’d first and then she did. After that everything just went wrong and evolved into this. Maybe if I never SI’d in the first place and she didn’t hear about it she would still be the bestfriend I love and know. I can’t live without my best friend and knowing I am the reason her life went spiraling down. I don’t know what to, nothing is working. I just feel so helpless 🙁
You are not the reason why your friend injures. You cant blame yourself for other peoples choices. Im working on that myself, and im horrible at it. Just be there for her.
“helpless” imidetley drew my attention. i understand, im sort of going threw the same thing with one of my friends, the only difference is my friend is a guy, and he’s oddly enough… in love with me. he is extremley suicidal and i feel helpless considering no matter what i do or say i cant make him at all happy. maybe you should just take a step back, breathe, and make sure your friends is somewhat okay, then slowly take steps in and grow closer to your friend in way that you can help.
Honey you did not cause the SI. I just found out my 16 year old daughter SI and I keep blaming myself. But these kind people on her and my friends are making me see that I cannot stop or change the behavior only the person who SI can , it is ultimately their decision. Just don’t stop being her friend and she will come around, that is all you can do. Good Luck and remember to also take care of you.