i started siing on july 24 2010. when school started i became friends with a guy in my art class and its been a little over month since school started and i told the guy, adam that i si. on october 4 he asked me out.. of course i said yes i like him alot. by the way hes a junior and im a freshmen. the thing is my religion dosent allow me to date but im secretly behind my parents back going out with him and he knows that. i should be happy that im with him but im not. i think he could do so much better than me. he could find a perfect girl who dosent have such a messed up mind. hes leaving for the marines after higschool and its very dangerous. im so scared. i havent si for like 6 days and it felt like forever cause i promised adam. but on saturday i sied and i dont know how to tell him
any advice?
You broke a promise he won’t like that. So you have a choice tell him and risk a bad break up, tell him and him understanding, or not telling him and him being upset you didn’t tell him. So three choices two stink and one is iffy. So you choose be honest or not and get caught. That’s the only advice I can give
First of all it sounds like you are holding onto an awful lot of guilt and our secrets keep us sick. Making a promise to someone is a set up for you to feel more guilt. If he is the right person to help you through this he will understand and support you in finding the help you need to get a handle on this. Do your parents know you si? If you don’t feel you can talk to them is there anyone else at church, school councelor or adult friend you can talk to? You need to try to get someone who knows about the treatment for this. It is not your fault but you can learn a different way. There are also many websites and books that are helpful. I look forward to hearing about your success. In the mean time keep reaching out. You are worth it.
just tell him, if he really cares about you he will understand that its hard to just stop completely. people relapse. he should be there for you when you need him most. and if he doesnt, than you can do better than him.