I started SI a week ago, and yesterday I decided to tell my best friend. She was really cool about it and wasn’t freaked. Then I thought I should try to find help. Because I know what I’m doing is bad, but I can’t stop. So I went to ask the school counselor about it. I talked about it and we decided to put a post-it note in my book (I love reading) so that every time I look in it, I would see the positive things about my self. I told her not to tell my mom, but she didn’t listen. She told me that she has to tell her. I couldn’t do anything about that. My mom is on a business trip right now and will be back soon. I’ve tried the post-it note thing and it doesn’t work. And now I want to SI when I think about how much pain I’m already causing our family. This isn’t working. I want to stop, but I also want to keep going. I don’t know if I did the right thing about tell the counselor. I want to fix this by my self. I need ideas to help stop.
i was gonna tell my thinking about telling a counselour too but my friend said that she has to tell your parent if its hurting you
oh dear, I know exactly how you feel.
when my parents found out, it only made it harder for me to stay clean. i mean, what motivation could there possibly be knowing that my family is hurt because of the truth behind closed doors. i want you to know that telling your counselor was a good idea, it wasn’t bad. although i know it does hurt knowing that that person you confided in went off and told your parents, the exact opposite of what you wanted. but believe me, you should thank the person, because he/she is only trying to help you and take this as an opportunity to stop hurting yourself, but that can only happen if you truly want to stop hurting yourself.
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jeynann@yahoo.com
its not that your counselor “didn’t listen”…its that she HAS to tell your mom, legally its her responsibility and if she kept it a secret and someone knew that then she could lose her job, because keeping something that potentially dangerous to you would be a huge issue. I’ve been through that 3 times before, where counselors went to my parents–3 separate occasions. It’s nerve wracking, because once you go home you don’t know what to expect. But you need to just explain to your mom how you felt and what made you SI, and see if you can both work on getting you help. Because you’re the most important person in your life. You can get through this. Just stay strong, and keep being honest with others and yourself. You absolutely did the right thing…finding help is worth it, all the way.
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And the other thing to remember is, you cannot fix this alone. I used to think it was possible, but you need other people to help you. Maybe your mom and counselor can work with you together to fix it. Telling your friend was also a good idea. Now you have all the support you need. You can do it!
dear, let me tell you, u did the right thing. i was in ur exact situation almost to the last detail just last year, and it’s not easy to stop. don’t let the worrying get to you, it’s going to be okay. i still haven’t stopped completely since my mom found out (that’s mostly because i still have years of this habit beneath my belt), but ive been progressively loosing the need and the want to SI. it’s a fact that they will help you, you just have to trust them.
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