I just got back from hanging out with a friend of mine. The problem was we spent about a hour and a half about how we dont understand injurers. She claims its only for attention and that there is no logic behind it. That only the week do it. We have been so close since over 10 years ago. Why can’t she just not judge so much. Then maybe I could tell her.
Instead of agreeing with her and hiding your true thoughts you should challenge her. Dont get angry or start and argument, just ask her why she feels that way. Stereotyping is not acceptable and she obviously does’nt understand what it is like to feel this way. You can have different opinions and still be friends. And hey, if you challenge her maybe she will decide you are right and change her opinions making it easier for you to tell her. If not avoid those conversations as everytime you will be making it harder and harder for you to tell her.
You know I used to be like your friend. Id say ‘why in the world would someone injure? Its stupid’ until I started to si. But in order to seem ‘normal’ id stick to that even after I was siing for years. But lately I try to explain to people (without directly telling them I injure) that its an addiction like any other. I’ve found a lot of people are more understanding about it too when I say it that way. =)
I think you should tell her your opinion on it, instead of agreeing with her. It’s okay to disagree about something, I mean you guys aren’t going to be on the same page about everything. If you’re not ready to tell her, you don’t have to. But I think that telling her about why you do it can help her understand why others do it too, and maybe she won’t judge.