I have had it up to my ears with people telling me how I should act, etc. I have always been a relatively introverted and quiet person throughout my life. At 27 I feel that I am still that qiet person but I am able to get things done, get a good job, etc. (although being introverted does not make it easier to make friends) Anyway, all through my school and jobs I have always been told that I need to be more confident and assertive. I understand people are just trying to be helpful, but it feels like a slap in the face every time someone tells me this. You can’t just turn on a switch and all of a sudden be confident and the most outgoing person. It doesn’t work like that – at least not for me. I am so tired of being told how I should act. It makes me feel horrible and I want to si.

Also when I get down on myself for not being the “right way” I start to have a little bit of self pity and anger. I grew up in an abusive environment. I know that some of that may contribute to my lack of self confidence and lack of assertiveness now. I feel like I am still suffering for wha I have been through. I know I have the power to change, but it is not easy changing who you are – and I don’t even know if I want to change me anyway. There is nothing wrong with being the quiet one, right?