mkay well lets see. umm my boyfriend and best freind left me because they want me to get help. well ive been self injuring for a while now over a year i think and having them just dump me and say dint come back untill your better does not help one bit. i really dont know what to do cause im sick of everything honestly i dont want to die s.i is just one thing i can control in my messy life.
That is not very nice of your boyfriend. he should help you to get better, not abandon you to fend for yourself. as for the s.i. and it being the only controllable thing, there are ways to remedy that. i always reccomend taking up a sport or music or art, but any hobby could work. if u can do something that makes you feel good about yourself, and do it often, then there is no reason to si. also, try a better boyfriend, that one doesnt sound like the best.
i do have hobbys im a musician and i write. but its like in that moment right before i s.i i lose it and i know im being wrong in my actions but i just dont care at that moment. and after sonetimes i feel bad but i guess thats just how i think its supposed to be. its irratating because yes i know i need a new boyfriend or at least stay away from the old one but hes helped me so much hes my rock and without him sometimes i feel like im stumbling through things trying to catch my balance but i cant. blahh but thanks for the advice im new on here soo i really didnt know what to do.
You can control how you react when things happen. You can control whether or not you hurt yourself. You can choose whether or not be happy or sad or upset or excited. No one can make you feel anything, as feelings are things we choose and experience as part of life.
We can change our thoughts, which then lead to us being able to change our actions.
i suppose so. when your have ilnesses that stop you from gaining emotional control its kinda hard.
Don’t be blaming your illnesses for your lack of being able to control self-injury. If it is your illness causing the behavior, such as mental retardation or autism — then that isn’t the same type of self-injurious behavior. I have met some scizophrenics in the hospital who would self-injure, but their behavior they could not control because they were too ill to be cognitively aware of their actions… which isn’t the same as the self-injury those who are posting on this board are dealing with everyday.
Yes, you do have control. Whether you have anxiety or depression or multiple personality/ dissassociative disorder or bi-polar or borderline personality disorder or obessive compulsive disorder — you can still control it.
If you have enough control to be able to post on this board, then you are consciously aware enough of your actions to be able to control them if you focus in hard enough. Yes, sometimes we start injuring before we even realize what we are doing… but then once we realize, we can decide to stop or to continue.
Don’t play the victim role, please. The only person you are hurting is yourself and until you can become an advocate for your own recovery, no one else will be able to help you. Once you learn and want to help yourself, others will surround you and or you will find someone who can help you go to the next step and finally to the final steps to never have to hurt yourself again. Yes, complete recovery is possible!
well i think thats the problem the illnesses acumulate untill you just dont care. and you let it all go your morals slip away and its just you and self injuring. i know recovery is possible. but once your a cutter you always are. just because you dont do it doesnt mean you dont want to or dont think about it. it stays with you always in the back of your mind. waiting for its time to take over, if you let it of course. its a delacate balance.
It is your choice to care. I have a long list of diganoses, as I was just recently discharged from the hospital because of self-injury. I have life-long, serious medical problems too that I can’t run away from… in addition to a long list of psychiatric diagnoses.
No, “once an injurer always an injurer” — that is a bunch of bolonga! I used to hurt myself, but now I don’t. The scars might always be around, but that doesn’t mean I’ll have to be thinking about it everyday for the rest of my life. There are so many, much bigger things to focus on and enjoy and love and care about rather than self-injury.
I’ve been dealing with self-injury for over 10 years. I’m an adult with my 4 year degree and I’m looking at grad school as a realistic possiblity. Self-injury nearly killed me on accident. I will not always be an “injurer”. I refuse to settle for something that low and that degrading. I refuse to describe myself as that… I’m in recovery and I’m getting stronger and better everyday. No, it doesn’t have to come back and take over your life. Yes, you can stop self-injuring and never go back to it EVER AGAIN!
I do not define myself as an “injurer”, ever! I have struggled with self-injury, but I’m a beautiful and strong woman. I am a teacher, a musician, and an artist. I am so much more and I refuse to let society classify me as something so narrow and negative.