Hi people! So I have some major problems on my hands and i desperately need help. Before I share what the problems are I’ll tell you that I am 14 years old 15 on the 15th and I’ve been some-what counseling a couple people that I’ve met online. (Yes yes I’m being careful). Anyway I met this one guy and well he gets abused extremely bad and he was raped when he was young very very young. His parents got divorced and he now lives with his step dad and mom and both other them abuse him and so do his siblings verbally and physically. Almost every night when I’m talking to him he wants to commit suicide … I’ve talked him outta it probably about 4 times now. He thinks he has broken ribs or something bad like that I told him he NEEDS to see a doctor/call the police. He wont listen to me he wants to but he’s scared that his step-dad will find out about it and kill him before they get there. I told him that wont happen. I also gave him another choice of me calling for him or get close to a family or something stay with them for a night and call that night so his dad couldn’t get to him as fast. He still wont listen. I really want to help him like desperately. I told him to get a counselor and everything he wont do anything. I’ve recommend everything I could think of to him but hes just to scared I’m being comforting to him and helping him through it but I can’t be there to stop the abuse he needs help but wont get it….AHH what should I do?
Theres other people I talk to that I’m doing good with In the past week I’ve talked a couple people out of suicide. I’ve gotten them to get help which I’m happy about but I’m stuck on this guy. Please help!!!!! I’m doing great other then that I’ve SI a couple times but it’s only because of deaths and i haven’t in a week so I’m alright (:
It is great that you want to help other people, but you need to spend more time focusing on helping yourself. If you are still hurting yourself, then that is a sign you are far from being “okay”. Don’t take on everyone else’s problems when you have big enough problems yourself. Focus on not hurting yourself and once you have that down for a long time, then you can start worrying about someone else — you need help and support right now, especially if you are grieving.
No no it’s weird because helping these people has helped me to stop SI and kind of get my mind of things like deaths. It really does. I don’t know why but it does. Helping people like this makes me feel good about myself and is making me a better nicer person. If i was seriously not in good shape with myself then I wouldn’t help as much but I’m in good shape right now! I really wanna help him now.
Hi.
This seems like a lot for you to take on and worry about. I agree with the reply above that you need to focus on yourself too. The way you are describing this person’s situation seems rather serious and this person needs to get help if they are getting abused and thinking about suicide. It is great that you want to help, but this person may also need some professional help/adult intervention. Do you know this person well enough to ask them if you can contact someone for them. For instance if they feel scared to go to someone on their own, would they be comfortable if you contacted a trusted adult for them. This is a lot for you to take on and it sounds like this person may need someore help then you might be able to provide via the web. Don’t try to take on this person’s issues on your own. They need help and at the same time you need to take care of yourself.
Im the only who he trusts and tells this stuff to. If i left his life it would ruin him. I asked him if he would let me call someone for him he wont let me. He’s scared his dad will find out somehow. I’m doing perfectly fine though. I’m extremely happy right now. I haven’t been this happy in a long time I’m just worried about him. He wont go get professional help himself either. I’m getting it so I’m doing great!
i’ve been in your position, and it isnt an easy one to be in. i just prayed that God would help me find a way out for this girl (the one i was helping) and he did. the neighbors heard the parents fighting and beating the girl. so they called the police and the girl is in therapy right now. she’s far from ‘okay’ but she’s out of a bad situation. i hope this helps some