So I was just wondering what some of you do to control anger? Because I realize that that is one of my main triggers.
Hard day today and rough night last night, got some really bad urges but I’m managing. For now. One moment at a time.
So yeah any advice on controlling anger would be helpful
Thanks
Staystrong
I think you might be asking for ways to hold anger in, to sort of get rid of it, right? This is a very common request among people who self injure. It’s very positive that you recognize that it impacts your self injury. That’s a great step in the right direction.
What if you could learn to express it in healthy and productive ways? Everyone gets angry – sometimes there are very real reasons to be angry. It isn’t the emotion that’s “wrong” – it’s what you do with it. Holding it in, just makes it build – until there is an explosion of sorts.
How about writing in a journal about what your angry about? Drawing a picture – even if you’re the worst artist in the world, it is still very helpful to just get your feelings out on paper. Of course, talking to someone is great. Or writing a letter to someone that you never send – just to figure out how you’re feeling. While these things may feel like they make it worse, they actually help to decrease your anger with time and practice.
I hope some of this helps. Have you looked at the book “Bodily Harm”? There are great writing assignments in there that may also help – I believe one of them is even about anger :-). I also don’t mean to make it sound so simple – I know it’s very hard actually. You have a right to your feelings though – it just takes a lot of practice and support.
Take care, Pam
good job ov takin it 1 momnt @ a time . it took me a wile 2 finaly do tht . anger iz an emotion , so u hav 2 let ur emotionz out in a possitive way . if u get 2 angry , thn u will prbly SI again . so dont do anythin stupid . hav faith n belive .
i have a problem with anger. i’ve found out that usually if i’m sad, i will get angry, or if i’m angry, i will be sad because i feel i have no way to stop the anger or to express it other than just being angry and keeping that feeling in. i don’t really have advice, but i wish you the best at finding healthier ways to deal with anger. good luck sweetie xx
Thanks guys. 🙂
I’m more looking for ways of getting rid of the anger but in a more positive way than s.i.ing or taking it out on other people, because I find that holding it in just makes it worse, like you said.
I am really interested in reading Bodily Harm, I was just wondering if it would be triggering.
Thanks again,
Staystrong