Well I went out for Easter dinner with my family: mom, dad, stepbrother, stepmom and me. My dad was under the influence that night, like usual. But this time it was worse. He got mad at the waiter for not bringing our dinner on time and started screaming and cursing at him. Then he grabbed the poor guy and nearly beat him up. We were kicked out and they almost had to call the cops on him. It hurts me so much that he cant even try to stay clean. Not for me or my stepbrother. And not for one night can he stay sober. I’m trying to stay clean and he cant even attept to do the same for me! Its not fair. He refuses to go to rehab. And he doesnt remeber doing anything that night, thats the worst part. Then my ex decided to toy with my emotions again telling me that he loves me and he misses “us” when i know that its not true. He broke up with me because i quote: was not good for him and i changed so much since the start of the relationship and it would be better if we were “just freinds”. I cried so hard that night. Why cant i just have a normal life with one house and a normal family and a guy who actually loves me. Help please?
You should tell your mom or your brother how you feel. Maybe they can talk your dad into going to rehab. Tell them about your problems, they’ll understand, I bet they feel the same way. On nights when he gets really bad, go to one of your good friends house, or even another family member that your close to. And about the boy thing, trust me honey, he’s not worth your time. Just forget about him and move on, your soul mates out there and It’s not someone who treats you like that, cause you deserve better. Mr. right will come along, and you too will fall in love and it will be beautiful. For right now, just focus on trying to figure out the issues with your family, you don’t need to be worrying about guys at this time, most likely it will come unexpected anyways. Just stay strong:] You can do this, and you should influence you dad to try also, even if he already said no, keep trying:] It can’t do anything but help.
-loveisourweapon<3
Blondie, loveisourweapon has some really good advice. A family sticks together through hard times and it looks like this is one. I’m glad you’re doing your best to stay clean yourself because that’s an awesome testimony for your dad. He must be dealing with some troubles and it’s a good idea to ask your mom and stepmom to help him with this.
Praying is a good thing to do here too you know. I know it sounds corny, but prayer works.
Please see the good people at S.A.F.E. for some self-harm help for yourself would you?
The thing is that my mom and dad are divorced and whenever I go to stay with him hes always extremely drunk and high then he tries to act like everything is “OKAY”, when obviously its not. He wont let me or my mom talk to him about it and hes still in denial. Hes isolating himself so none of us can talk to him. And last fall he was driving under the influence with my 13yr old step brother in the passenger seat and crashed into a tree and totaled the car. My stepbrother was almost killed because of him. We cant put up a law-suit on him because my family feels its wrong and he needs help. Praying doesnt work for me. It never has. Thats why im agnostic. Im sorry im such a pessimist at the moment…any other ideas?