I have this friend that SI’s,and I was talking to her today. She wanted to SI and I was trying to help not SI. So I told her get rid of her things and she said she couldn’t do it so I was trying to give other suggestions and that didn’t work. So then I told her that I think I’m giving up on her. I feel so horrible now. I know what it feels like to have people give up on me and it hurts. I feel numb and empty inside. I feel so emotionless.
You can’t be mad at yourself for reacting the way you did. Sure it could have been handled in a defferent way but you were fustrated and in reaction said something you know wasn’t right. You can’t take it back cuz its already done all you can do is apologize and move forward. If you truly want to help her with this tell that to her and let her know that you will be there for her.
As you already know this isn’t going to be an easy process just be strong. I believe that things will get better. She is lucky to have a friend like you.
signed–TB <3
Heey, I have a friend who did the same thing to me, so I know how it feels to be the person hurting. However, what my friend did made a lot of the things she said to me hurt less. So, I SI, and my best friend knows, and she has been trying to help me for awhile, and nothing has gotten better… she has given me a multitude of suggestions and I have tried a lot of things, but some things just terrifying me, like “going to a hospital” or whatever, so I won’t do that, so she told me she was going to give up on me too, it hurt a lot to hear my best friend say that, but what I suggest for you to do is exactly what she did to me, because I think she was feeling the same way you are. She wrote me a nice letter explaining how much I mean to her, and how much its killing her inside to see me hurting like this, she apologizzed for what she said and told me she didnt mean it, and she really wants to help me. a friend, no matter if they can axtually physcially help you through this experience, helps by just being your friend and that is something that i have found through experiencing this. i hope this helps. <3 good luck!