I’m not too sure what I’m going to write about here or if I’ll even keep writing. I always try to promise myself I’ll keep a blog going but I never do. First off I suppose I should tell you a bit about myself….
I was born and raised in Wellington, New Zealand (A little place by Australia) not many people know where that is but to me it’s all I’ve known. Family is a complicated subject which I’ll do my best to explain: I have 5 sisters and 3 brothers, all of which are half. Before my father and mother meet my father had a son and a daughter (a few years apart of course) with one woman 40 odd years ago, 10 year later my mother had a daughter then a son also. My mother’s husband at the time shortly died of cancer and left her to raise 2 young children. For whatever reason my father ended it with his wife, being 2 lonely people they searched for other fish in the sea and found each other. That’s where I come in! In July, 1992 I surprised the world. Just after I turned 2 years old my father left to be with another woman by the name of Linda who was at my christening a year or so before….sketchy? -I think so! Anyway they seemed to be quite happy and started popping out little ones faster than ever. Thus came a son and four daughters. Although I’m glad to say I only lived with the siblings on my mother’s side and still live with my mother and sister in the same house I’ve always lived in. As for grandparents and other relatives well most of them passed on before I was able to walk, talk or realize I even had other family! It stinks being so young in a family full of old people but It’s made me more mature than some people I know so I guess I wouldn’t have it any other way….
Welcome to this blog! I’ve found it to be a good place to post. The people on here seem very kind, supportive, and non-judgmental. I’m young in my family too, i know what you’re talking about with the maturity thing. Although from the sound of it, my family is a bit smaller than yours 🙂
Hey this is my first time on this website and I really need help my parents just fount out about me self harming and they were horrible my parents screamed and yelled at me telling me that they’re so dispointed… tbh they just made me wanna cut more. I just can’t stand the fact that they don’t understand what self harming is the reason I self harmed is bc of depression and I felt worthless and I was mistreated
Hey Shelby;
I’m sorry about your parents, I had a rough time with mine too. My dad yelled at me about suicide and basically threatened me into promising I wouldn’t do it. Which.. well. Yeah.
I self harm too, and I don’t really know what to say to you except I’m sorry. You’re parents are very wrong in this situation. Don’t let them make you think otherwise. Please remember that you are a literal princess, and should be treated as such. Even if you are a princess who might have some stains on her dresses.
I beleive in you.
♡ Kate
I IMAGINE Marcin is speaking Polish, ( I’m Czech ). I can be the resident NANNA here, ( I’m 70, and an ex-alcoholic, drug addict, cutter, eating disorder sufferer, etc.) So VERY GLAD TO BE HERE Dear Ones, I am just taking a little break from a dumb argument with my husband and his Archie Bunker imitations. Are we TRYING THE ONE DAY AT A TIME THING ( AA – NA -ALANON-AL-APET haha) because THAT may just help us a bit: ALL WE HAVE TO DO IS HANG ON FOR THE NEXT 24 hrs.
Unfortunately ( bless you, my parent story is pretty much like yours ) our families are so SICK and beyond mending that we could NEVER, try as we might) put them back to NORMAL AGAIN. (It’s taken me 50 yrs. to realize that !!!) The BEST WE CAN DO IS : BUILD OUR OWN PERSONAL LIVES. It’s TOO LATE for your parents ( so sorry to say that, hug, hug ) BUT IT’S NOT TOO LATE FOR YOU !!! FOR YOUR CAREER; YOUR
LOVER; YOUR OWN FAMILY: YOUR FRIENDS, etc.
Shelby i just recently cut myself because of a fight me and my mom had i had almost done it before but had always managed to stop myself because of all the people who I’ve heard die from that but the fight made me tell my mom some mean somewhat truthful things and just to feel better i tried it. Now I worry that I might like doing again and again. Just like you. I know your parents might not know what depression and welfare is but I DO AND I WANT MORE than ANYTHING YOU ARE NOT alone EVER SOMEONE out there loves you😢😘😷😂😂 ALL MY LOVE Juliet
Shelby, Honey, I’m 70 yrs of age (yes, a fossil) and you can consider me your Grandma, or whatever. In my life, I have been an : Alcoholic, drug addict, member of Al-anon, victim of an eating disorder, and cutter. I just hurt FOR YOU when I read YOUR POST, OKAY. Please do forgive me for putting down your relatives, but Babe, I hate to tell you : your parents have a problem with selfishness and LACK OF EDUCATION…..they AUGHT to be out there going to a support group for the LOVED ONES OF CUTTERS. (At least that’s what I’D want to do; YOU TOO, I’D imagine. Smile.) I KNOW FROM PAST PERSONAL EXPERIENCE THAT IT IS VERY, VERY HARD ….BUT YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO START “PARENTING,” YOURSELF IMMEDIATELY, GET INTO “RECOVERY FROM CUTTING,” and PRACTICE ACTIVE IGNORING WHEN IT COME TO YOUR FAMILY. SADLY, THEY’RE —-NEVER—GOING TO GET IT.( AND I DON’T REALLY THINK THEY WANT TO, sadly.)
YOU ARE A TREASURE, GIRL, and simply MUST SAVE YOURSELF. Blessings. C.
I just started s.i and i dont know why… I have two other friends who also s.i and i dont wanna harm but i cant not. you get? im so scared that my mom will find out or my doctor will.
Hola
Necesito ayuda, ya que les cuento a mis padres y no me escuchan, me rechazan y siento que no eh tenido una buena conección con mi mamá.
Tuve un trauma a los 7 años el cual no lo saben mis padres por que si se los digo no me creeran ni mucho menos me escucharan
Siempre eh querido platicar con un/una piscicologo(a). Pero no se aún tengo 15 años y esta depresión me esta acabando 🙁
Hola, lamento que no puedas hablar con tus padres sobre tu abuso. Le animo a que trate de encontrar un adulto de confianza, puede ser un maestro, un consejero escolar, un miembro de la Iglesia, una madre amiga, por nombrar algunos. Te animo a que comiences un diario, eso también podría ser útil, especialmente cuando encuentres a alguien con quien hablar, puedes compartir algunos de tus pensamientos diarios. Siga buscando en línea grupos que puedan ayudar a los niños que fueron abusados. Buena suerte, no estás solo.
Hi this is my frist time here. I S.I. everytime I feel worthless or unhappy or like I’ve disappointed my parents. I stole some money from my dad, and when I saw his face all I wanted to do was S.I. I don’t know why I took the money from my dad when I don’t really need it but all I can think about right now is S.I.
Sometimes I feel worthless… my parents would say things to me and call me names and it makes me feel like crap. They know that I used to cut and they know exactly what not to say to make me S.I., but my mother doesn’t care, if I died, she wouldn’t care. Every word she says to me just makes me want to S.I. more.
Hi lately I’ve been having some trouble avoiding self harm expecially when I do homework, which is quite an odd time to do it, like right now I’m doing homework and I don’t know why but I really want to rn
hi, so I just moved in with my dad and stepmom because my mom is getting a divorce with my stepdad and she moved out of town. i was only with my dad for a week when i had to leave to a camp for 2 weeks. when I got back my dad told me that my stepmom didn’t like me being here and asked if I had somewhere else to stay. little do they know that I struggle with feeling unwanted and worthless already. so I’ve been very distant and I went back to self-harming.
I worry about self harming myself again so much that I got on here without my parents permission because they don’t know what depression is. And because I am so scared 😨 of being able to hurt myself or others. I don’t know what to do. I am so lost i just had to talk to someone. I’m tired of being lonely without help😭😓😶😷😷😞
I’ve been thinking about self harm lately my friends haven’t talked to me in a while I don’t want to loose them
i’ve SI 3 times now. the first time i did it i went months without being found out, but then my best friend saw and was accepting but dissapointed. that time i had done it bc of a fight my parents had which left me feeling as though it was all my fault. the second time i did it i can’t even tell you why bc im not sure myself but i just had the urge, so i did it. once again my best friend found out again bc she checked my wrist and threatened to tell
my parents if i did it again. i went 3 months without even the urge until today when school overwhelmed me to the max, and i began feeling not smart enough or good enough for anyone, SO I SI again, any one have advice to help me stop? i really don’t want it to become an addiction.
I feel like I can’t talk to anyone about my self injuries. I keep trying to find a local place near me that has a support group. Does anyone know of any near Fayetteville,NC are?
I just need a local support group for self harm. Does anybody know of one close to Fayetteville,NC