I have recently starting injuring myself again and now all my boyfriend ever says is that he wants me to “see someone”. I have gone to counseling before, it was years ago, but it did not help me. He also threatened to tell my mother who doesn’t know I didn’t quit years ago. It was a breach of my trust and I don’t know what to do. “Seeing someone” isn’t going to help me at all. He won’t even stop lecturing me long enough for me to tell him I have joined on here, which I feel is more beneficial to my health and happiness. I don’t see the point in going to an office and having a stranger want to put me on meds or kick me out of school for medical leave. I’ve been called stubborn for not going. And now I don’t know if it really won’t help or if I just hate being told to do it. Thoughts?..
hey there..honestly i think u know yourself better than your boyfriend or a therapist. some people find therapy helpful but i personally think until we figure out whatever it is within us that makes us unhappy enough to SI , i dont think any therapist would change that. but u may find one out there u connect with and find useful. i think like everything else its trial and error. but since this site is a new venture i def say see how that goes. but def keep trying someting. =)
Your boyfriend does only want to help, or at least seems like he has good intentions. If you can, just sit him down and explain to him that he isn’t you and that you would like to try to find your own path before he forces one upon you. As inksmydrink said, try with this site, its a new place for me too. If you just need someone to talk to, my email is: notsodumbblonde28@hotmail.com. I’ve dealt with a similar boyfriend situation so maybe I can help you help him learn how to help you.
so i have been told so many times that i really need to see someone about my problems and i havent and probably never will because for one why would i wan tto even talk to someone who has no idea what i’ve been through about something tha tis extreamely personal to me and second you can put me on some medication you know i wont take. Really i think that any time someone says that you need to see someone i would look at them and say you know you arent a peach yourself so how about you see someone. I think that you coming on this site will help you more than going to a doctor who just cares about getting money. It has helped me more than talking to my bestfriends, but he cant force you to do something and neither can you mother if she found out. But if you ever want to talk about anything i’m free there are no, $100 an hour sessions i always want to listen.. my email address is jjmsgirl@gmail.com