Wow. I can’t believe that I forgot about this place. It’s probably been, gosh, 3 months at least since I’ve signed on? And I’m sorry for that, I feel like I owe it to everyone to support them like they’ve supported me.
Anyways. On June 22 I said that I would sincerely try to stop, and I made it for 10 weeks. But then I slipped up. I was absolutely devastated, I couldn’t believe I actually did it… and for the past month or so every week I’ll slip up. 🙁 I haven’t told anyone that I’m bad again, and I think I might keep it this way, unlike the first period where I struggled with SI. But I dont want this to turn into the nightmare it was 6 months ago. I’ve just been so stressed out from school, and this is the only thing I can turn to…
I also REALLY really need some help. About 5 months ago, my friend told me she was being physically abused by her dad and verbally harassed. At first, I thought she was exaggerating things, but I began to see she was right. Last Wednesday, we were in the car with each other, and her dad was driving us, and because they got into a small bicker about missing a turn, he told her to get the (bleep) out of his car, and he drove off without her, with me still in the car. After 5 minutes or so, he went back and got her. I’m in a family that’s never at all cruel like this, but I’m just wondering: after everything, the physical and verbal stuff, etc., is this abuse? Should I call for help? I don’t know what to do! It’s going to be ugly no matter what, but I really need some advice on how to approach this in a way that keeps MY family safe and gets her safe. I know she needs to get out of that house, but I’m even more afraid that if I tell someone and the investigation DOESN’T find abuse (which would be absolute bull), then things will be even worse for her.
If nothing else, and I understand that you wouldn’t want to take the time to read all this, please keep her in your prayers. You all are in mine. I owe my life to you guys 🙂
yourguardianangel
i stopped si for a few months as well and only recently began again about a month ago because of stress in my life that i couldnt handle. i know what you mean about it being a lot harder to tell people when you slip up again just cause it would feel as though you are failing whoever tried to help in the first place. however, i do know from experience that we cant completely predict peoples reactions and they might surprise you when the moment arrives, whenever that might be.
as for your friend, i dont know the extent of the situation with her, but abuse only get worse. think about your own si, it probably didnt start off as harsh as it is now over the progression of time. if you think she is being abused then its really important that you tell someone who can get in there and do something about it. one of my friends is going through this process right now because her dad wont admit to the things he did to her and so it is a big court issue…but at least he isnt hurting her anymore. in these cases most people in social services or whatever you call will end up taking the child’s side over the parents. but you are right that there is always that risk that nothing would change and then her dad will be even more angry with her and abuse her even more
i will definitely be praying for her and for you
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Abuse should never be over looked but it does happen that way sometimes… maybe you should get your friend to go to your house to stay for a while then call the police or social services and explain what is going on and they should do something about it… have you asked your friend what she wants to do? It takes alot to get out of being abused but something needs to be done before it gets worse… i wish you the best of luck with your SI it will be a stuggle to stop it is for everyone and i know you can do it…
Thank you both for the advice 🙂 You’re all in my prayers too. You guys have given me some courage, something I quite frankly thought I had lost – I owe it to you. Stay strong and have faith.