Well, I’m not quite sure if I fit in here because I haven’t SI’d for almost two years. But I wanted to start blogging about it somewhere that no one I know would be able to see it. I haven’t told my family about my SI yet, even though it has been so long. I’m just scared of how they might react. I would be more interested in helping others to overcome their self injury. I am living proof that it is possible to stop injuring and lead a normal life. I now know several other people who are very close to me that either self harm or used to self harm. It has helped me in many ways to hear other people’s stories and to know that I am not alone. Please come to me with any questions you might have. Or if anyone wants help that you know is really safe you can talk to me at any time.
Hey
so i know that deep down i want to stop s.i.ing but it feels impossible to never do it again in my whole life… :/
idk it just feels as if im being stretched to my fullest extent and i dont know how long its going to be before i can’t tolerate anymore. the longest ive ever gone without si ing is about 2 and a half weeks, but rite now i havent done it in like 8 days and it already feels like an eternity… the urges are so strong…
anyways any help wud be appreciated…
Staystrong
i’m glad you stopped 🙂
if you don’t mind, i’d like your advice. i’m trying to stop. i don’t want to, but i know i have to. and all my friends who have stopped SIing just tell me that you just stop and don’t think about it. but i’ve tried and i can’t. any ideas on how to make myself stop?
Hi, Staystrong and proelium.
I’m here to help. I can tell you many things that helped me personally, and that I know have helped other people. Have you told anyone? If so it really helps to talk to them about it. Or maybe when you feel like SIing you could call a friend and ask them for help. I still feel those urges to cut every day, but it gets soo much easier the longer you go without it. One thing that helped me a lot was a friend that also used to SI. If you know anyone who self harms I really encourage you to talk to them about it. They will know that what you are feeling is real and painful. Sometimes just sitting in your room and thinking about cutting can be helpful. Going a long time without it is very hard, but it is NOT impossible, so don’t give up. I know sometimes the world seems dark and lonely, but know that there is always hope.
~Kai
If you’ve ever self injured, you fit in here. If you’ve ever felt weak, you fit in here. If you need help and you’re struggling, you fit in here. We’ve all fit one or all three of the above at some point. Welcome to the website, and I hope that you can ask for and recieve as much help as you are handing to others. Telling your parents is a huge step but I’ve told mine on several occasions, and now my mom and I have open talks about SI in general. It’s really a hard thing to do, but all it can do is help you. If you’ve stopped and you know you’ve really meant it and you’re not going to do it, you could consider telling her sooner or later, your choice. I hope it all works out for you, and if you need to, email.
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Thank you for your support. This website is like a different world. Everyone knows about SI and cares. It’s amazing.
Yeah i know! it’s great here.
Thanks so much Kai, you really gave me inspiration and a great start to the day. It’s two weeks today since the last time i s.i.ed. Yeah, I’ve told my closest friends and my cousin, and my parents found out. One of my best friends also s.i.es and its the worst thing to see her scars because it makes ME want to s.i. My parents know that she does it, so they hardly ever let me hang out with her or contact her and it tears me up. I know that we can help each other, but they aren’t letting this happen. I hate them sometimes, they want me to stop, but here they are just making everything harder for me.
Any advice on what to say to them?
Thanks so much, you’re really inspirational,
Staystrong
Hey, Staystrong. Thanks for the appreciation!
Parents usually don’t understand Self-Injury. No one can fully understand unless they have done it themselves. You might try explaining this to them. The main thing is to stay calm when you are talking to them. This makes you look a lot more mature than them. Just calmly explain everything you want to them, and if they don’t let you, then go to a friend. Also, the sooner it gets out to more people, the sooner the pain goes away. Although this of course is limited to people you know will try to understand. Recovery takes a long time and a lot of hard work, but the reward at the end is so great. Don’t let anyone get in the way of that.
You can also talk to me at ANY time. Here’s my email abraidedsilver@aim.com
~Kai
Hey Kai,
Yeah, I have trouble staying calm around them. But I will try next time. I don’t know, some days I don’t want to stop, and some days I do… I don’t know what I want any more. I’ve been thinking of it a lot today, even at dance where usually I can forget everything. I just can’t get the images out of my head. I know deep down I want to stop, but sometimes i think, wouldn’t it be great if my parents had never found out and I was still S.I.ing?
I have an appointment with a ounselor tomorrow… I have to miss dance for it. 🙁 and my parents have to come… I really hate talking to them about it. I’ll let you know how it goes.
Staystrong
Oh, thats tough. Yea, it is hard, but be as calm as you can.
Days when you think about it a lot can actually be helpful sometimes. It can make it seem kind of boring.
Feelings that come from deep down are more trustworthy. 🙂 Listen to them.
Yes, please let me know. Just be strong, and don’t let anyone get the best of you…
I’ll pray it goes well. 😀
~kai
hey
The conselor was great! She really listened and seemed to understand me, and she even kicked my parents out! 🙂 (my mum wasn’t to happy about that).
Anyways, I’m seeing her again on Monday, which will (hopefully) mark three weeks without S.I.ing! 😀
My friends are being great, and I think I have a tiny bit of hope left.
Staystrong
That’s great! I’m glad it went well… Let me know how Monday goes too. 🙂
Three weeks? Wow. I hope it all goes really well.
~kai