I’ve only been injuring for about 2 months. It started after my boyfriend and I did some things and I found out I could’ve been pregnant with his baby. I was grounded for about a month and I was so upset, I lost my boyfriend, a few friends, and my parent’s trust. I began injuring one day when I felt that I couldn’t take it anymore I was prepared to kill myself but this was the better alternative in that situation. So now that I’m not grounded and I am still injuring I don’t know how to stop. My uncle is begging me to stop and so is my best friend but I don’t know how to. Please help me resist the urge to injure myself!
I may know what you are going through. I was in a similar situation a few months ago. I isolated myself from everyone I could, thinking that if I opened up to them they would turn their backs on me. During that time I SIed more then I ever had before in my years of doing it. I am still recovering from it. My advice to you would be take little steps. Each time you have an urge to SI call your best friend or your uncle and talk to them about what you are feeling. My email is marina_cendejas@att.net if you want to talk to me more in depth.
it is hard to stop… i know ive been “clean” for over a year now and i still get the feeling off everything spinning out off control and feel the urge to SI… but the thing is you have to restrain yourself… first things first throw away your usual tool… i went through every single thing in my room and threw it out… all the tools I used… everything that may be used as a tool… i threw it all away until i could control myself… you have to go completely cold turkey… i talked with people… close friends are best, they can usually be helpful… do not tell people that you are weary about trusting they may hurt you more or ridicule you for it… SI is a private thing… to help yourself… another major step is to see someone… go see a counselor… maybe a youth leader or something… what helped me a lot was going to a group… it was completely confidential and you were allowed to just sit and listen and talk when you were ready… that helped me hear everyone else’s struggles and eventually helped me open up a bit… and then later on see the counselor who lead the group… the one on one sessions were quite different but effective… she helped me change my negative thoughts and that helped the urge a lot… you will find support in the ones close to you… i hope i helped a bit…
resisting the urges can be the toughest thing for us, and I have to admit it’s really hard for me most days.But you can do it. If you feel the urge write, and most importantly, leave that place for atleast a half an hour. The urge will wear off…it usually does. Go for a walk, swing on the swings with your iPod on. Find love and support in those who do love you. They may not trust you now, because they’re lost in this too. You have to gain it back. Gain their love and trust back. It’s the only option you have, and once you see yourself making progress, you’ll start to feel really good about it. Let the days grow into weeks, then weeks to months. I’m struggling myself, and you’re not alone in that.