On the one hand, friends are one of our most important resources. But what if making and keeping friends is one of the issues as well? I don’t want to lean on friends for support to the point where they burn out and don’t want to be friends with me anymore. But I don’t know where that point would be. I’m feeling really down now because I made some remarks that I thought were clever but now realize were just plain stupid. And rude. But if I apologize – and if it turns out she was not irritated, just preoccupied with other things, then it sounds as if I am asking for reassurance that she is still my friend and wants to hear what I have to say, but I’ve already done too much of that.