i dont know what to do atm i self harm at least every other day and i aint sure if its pushed my relationship away he dumped me on monday evening and i done somethig stupid , i feel alone atm and i feel like self harm helps , except know he has dumped me what other guys going to want a girl with self harm ? can anyone out there help me from stop feeling alone ? x
Hey now, you’re never alone, even if you feel like it. God is always there, no matter what, in good times and bad. You can always count on him. I know how you feel, I’ve felt alone so many times, but you just gotta know that you AREN’T alone. And even if he dumped you (i don’t have much experience w/ relationships and what-not), then it wasn’t supposed to work out. Just forget the past and move on. You said that you feel like self harm helps. *FEEL*. The reality is, it doesn’t. There’s other more positive coping skills out there. I haven’t exactly figured it out, but i keep trying. Meditation and praying helps me a lot. I’m so sorry, I know things may not be looking too great right now, but they always say that in order to appreciate the good times you gotta go through the bad times first. Remember: what doesn’t break you only makes you stronger. Have faith, and be strong.
He may just have been too immature to handle the SI thing. I’ve known guys like that, and I’ve decided that they’re not worth it. Anyone who isn’t able to accept your weaknesses and the person that you are is not worth a second of your time. Replace him with someone who you think will really love you for who you are, and remember that youre’ still young. You have a while to find them, and there’s no rush. Right now, you have to learn about how to love yourself instead of another person, because love for others sprouts from self-love and acceptance.
Things can only get better if you let them, and I’m glad you posted asking for advice. Stay strong.
<3, rescue