I am 36 years old and have been SI for about 15 years now. I am finally seeing a therapist that really keeps me accountable and not just sweep it under the rug! I have been given options of substitute that aren’t very helpful. I just don’t know hwo to start! I really need your support!
hi, I’m 41 and still SI when I talk about past childhood sexual abuse. I don’t SI, when I don’t talk about it. Find out what your triggers are and get some help from a caring professional. I started SI when I was 13.
hey sunshine. this is going to sound cheesy but you have my support and best wishes. =] Good luck!
Hey…I’m 35 now and I’ve only SIed for 5 years now but I understand completely about wanting to give it up but feeling like you can’t as it is a part of you!!! Funny thing is…for me…it only TEMPORARILY gets rid of the pain I’m in and I’m back at square one!! THAT part is really frusterating as I feel like I’m on a hamster wheel sometimes!! If you have a good therapist though it can help to talk to them. They will get to know you and be able to help you determine what your triggers are!! If you ever want to chat sometime like on MSN or something or just email…you can reach me at ninelives9@live.com . Take care and hope to hear from you anytime..day or night!! I work nights a lot so will probably be up!!
In a sense, we are accountable for our SI. Things are manageable, and sometimes we feel bad about the pain other people cause us, but it’s up to us to realize that there are other answers, and that when we’re okay, that relapse isn’t an option. We are all loved by people, and always loved by God. Stay strong, you can do it. We are all capable and beautiful human beings, no matter what anyone may tell us or make us feel. We are always in control. We’ve just gotta take advantage of that control.
Hang in there, and when you slip up, forgive yourself and move on. One thing I am finding is key in avoiding SI is taking care of myself in other ways: getting enough sleep, eating right, spending time with people who make me feel good about myself, doing something I enjoy every day. The stronger and healthier I am, the better I can resist the temptation.