Im increadibly angry with my therapist right now. She recommended a doctor to me, so my parents made me an appointment. I feel that she misinformed me and my parents about what this doctor was supposed to do.
I realize that it is not her job to reccomend doctors and tell me what the do, but still. . .
She led me to believe that this was a psychiatrist and when i went they gave me a physical exam. It turns out this wasnt a psychiatrist, but a pediatric specialist for eating disorders.
I hate physical exams and while this doctor didn’t look at “everything” like my normal doctor does, i still was uncomfortable. It wasnt like he did anything a doctor shouldnt, i just am very uncomfortable with physical exams and was unprepared.
It made me want to SI
How do i tell my therapist how angry i am at her?
I would just tell her exactly what you typed…maybe even print it out and give her a copy…that would make it easy on you as well. Good Luck, stay strong!!!
i emailed her and told her i was mad at her, and then she got mad at me and told me that she was busting her tail (her words not mine) for me and i should know that she would never intentionally hurt me.
so i apologized
then she apologized
I’m still upset with her, but i probobly wont bring it up again.
You may not be the same as me but if I was in your shoes I’d need to bring it up again–even though it would be hard–or because it would be hard. I’m learning that I’m regularly not as assertive as I could be and finding that when I am assertive I have fewer urges. Ideally, the therapist should be someone you can practice expressing yourself with instead of stuffing things up inside only to have them come back up in self-destructive ways.
Physical exams are like drug tests…you can never be “prepared”. When people have to check you for scars or injuries, you best just let them. Don’t be angry. It’s hard admitting you have a problem, it always is. I’ve dealt with it several times. But that’s the only way we can be helped. You can tell your therapists that youre angry with them, they can take the honesty. But remember that they did it because they care about you…it’s their job. Doctors cannot tell you what to do, no one can tell you what to do. But any doctor has the right to recommend you to someone. It’s up to you whether or not you go to that person. Not them. No one can force you to do anything, and no one can force you to get better. You have to want that. And in this case, that comes with acceptance of the fact that you need recovery. Find it, somewhere…don’t wallow in this, Use it to move forward. You can do it.