Alright, well, on terms of SI, I am clean, which I guess is good. But quite frankly, I could care less. On Sunday, my friend told me that she was being abused by her parents. I was not terribly suprised, I had guessed that she was being abused, but it was ABSOLUTELY AWFUL to hear that I was right. I feel so terrible and angry and sad and helpless. I wouldn’t let her go home on Sunday, so she stayed the night with me and we tried to come up with a plan for how she could possibly get help. She hasn’t told anyone else besides me, and I made her promise that she would tell an adult who she trusts (which is really hard for her, considering she can’t truly trust anyone right now…) since I can’t exactly do anything. I’m only 14. She doesn’t want to tell anyone else though, cause she’s afraid that they’ll make her leave her home and move somewhere else. But if making her safe means moving in with a relative or family-friend, then it may not be that bad of an idea, even if it’s only for a few weeks or so and not permanent.
The pain that I feel is too deep to even describe. She is my best friend, and it is is unbearable to see someone you love and care about in so much pain. And I have the urge more than I ever have to punch her dad in the face for abusing her, and punch her mom for doing NOTHING while HER OWN F%*&$ING CHILD is being ABUSED BY HER HUSBAND!!!! Does anyone have any advice that they could possible give to her? I have never gone through what she has, and I think she just needs some hope that she can get through this and that this is NOT HER FAULT. I am meeting with my guidance counselor, whom she has agreed to talk to, tomorrow to tell him what is going on, so, hopefully alll goes well.
Please, pray for her.
your a good man, keep doing what your doing, your definetly doing the rite thing, its disgusting that 14 year old kids have to go through this kind of thing. im older then you but going through a very similar situation, i just posted ( i dont how to help my friend ) so i understand the helpless feeling you have, i really do, my heart breaks for my friend and yours. absolutley talk to your counselor i wish i had that option, im kinda really on my own here. Just keep being there for her, keep listening and stay strong for you and her. I really hope all does go well and you guys will for sure be in my prayers. It really does sound like though if she has to move out for a while or forever thats the least of her problems. if you can please let us know how you guys make out with the counselor, good luck and stay strong, i know its hard i really do, but god bless you.
Thank you for your prayers and encouragment. I talked with her again today, but she is really wary of telling an adult, because she doesn’t want to be moved out. I’m worried that she won’t tell someone now. I don’t know what to do. All I can do is have faith and ask for help from God. Only she can make this choice, but whatever it is, I’m in the same boat as she is and will never abandon her.
You guys are amazing. As a girl a little bit older who’s been through a similar situation from the other side, it’s scary as hell. You must be an amazing friend, guardianangel, to encourage that much trust from that girl. When I was in an abusive household I felt like there was no way for me to leave because there was no place for me to go. If she’s scared of the very real possibilities of fostercare or other ways of breaking up the family, you’ve got to stay with her. Stay strong as the one fixed thing she can count on. I’m not sure what else–beyond prayers and listening–that you can do.