One of my best friends told her mom that I SI this past summer and I honestly was horrible to my best friend because I was sooo angry at her for telling and I was horrible to her mom through my best friend herself because I was mad that she called my mom and told her I injure. So I just wrote a very long letter to my best friend apologizing about how I acted because I feel horrible. The only problem is she doesn’t know that I started injuring again and despite everything that I went through this past summer because I told her and my other two best friends but mainly her I wanna tell her I relapsed but I don’t know how and I know she’ll be mad and if her mom calls my mom again then I think my mom will believe her this time. But yet despite all of that I still wanna tell my best friend. Is this a good idea or no?
Take it in baby steps. You can’t forgive her and then tell her again, because she’ll see that as you want her to tell someone. Forgive her first. And I think it was right for her to tell someone, she was just being a good friend to you. And I learned from this from past experience. I’ve been told on two or three times to teachers for injuring, and my mom found out all three times. At first I was really, really mad at the people who told the teachers and counselors. But after a few days, I went to them and I THANKED them, because they were doing me a favor. They were trying to save me from myself…exactly. And they, in telling someone so I could get help, were showing me that they loved me and really cared, and I appreciated that. And it actually made my relationship with them as well as my parents stronger, because now I’m not so scared to be honest. It’s okay to have your parents know, it makes them more eligible to get you the help you need and deserve. But remember, they won’t know unless you ask.
<3, rescue
I agree with Rescue. Forgive her first – FULLY.
But I think it is a good idea to be honest with her.
And if you do want help, ask. It’ll be the hardest thing you do, trust me. I’m still trying to find a way to tell my mom I’ve relapsed.
You just have to go for it.
=)