If SI is a choice, then why are we being pushed to stop. isnt it our choice. I dont want to stop. I feel like crap and SI helps me feel better. Its not hurting anyone except me, so why should i stop. Its not worth it to me.
Because you don’t deserve to hurt. Because it IS possible to deal with pain, fear, terror, lonilness, depression, anxiety in better ways. Because though in the short term you may feel better in the long term the self injury will get worse. More frequent, more severe. Because you deserve to have healthy relationships with yourself and others….but in the end it is your choice. Don’t you deserve better.
The comment above me read my mind^. Also, you’re wrong in saying it doesn’t hurt anyone but you. It does. It hurts the people around you, it makes them feel bad and guilty, because they love you and they don’t want you to hurt yourself for reasons you don’t deserve to. I realized that a long time ago. My friends, when they found out I SIed, would cry and beg me to stop. That’s when I saw that when I SIed, it wasn’t just hurting me, it was hurting my friends and family. That should be motivation enough to stop.
its NOT just hurting u. when u selfinjure you hurt your family, friends, and everyone else who knows u and cares about u. i know this b/c thru my own si i hav made friends with the same problem and it kills me to see the cuts and scars. u could try to use your loved ones as motivation to stop. tho i gotta tell u, its pretty impossible to quit completely until u realize that it IS bad for you and u want to quit for yourself.
I think you know in your heart that you are hurting a lot more people than just yourself. SIing is something that is sooo painful…not just to us…and I think it is hard for us to understand why our SIing hurts others. We have lost all shock value. We aren’t shocked or baffled by what we see…however, put yourself in someone else’s shoes…(your mum, your dad, etc….) imagine for once the pain they feel when they see what we have done to ourselves.
You also really have to be to the point where you WANT to stop…otherwise the people that are “pushing” you to stop aren’t going to get anywhere. It is like anything, unless you want to, you won’t. Ending your SIing can only be done by YOU. The first step towards it is YOU wanting help and admitting that there is something wrong. After taht then everyone around you will be able to be there to support you in your recovery!!! I am learning this first hand right now. This past weekend, I could have SIed everyday!!! I wanted to more than anything, anything to make it go away!!! But somehow I got through it, between God, my boyfriend, my bestfriends, my boss’s, my mum, mydogs, just me fighting myself…and meetings. I walked away from the weekend SI free…I don’t know about tomorrow, but today I am SI free…
When you are ready, you will have support…
YOU can get through this….
I wish you the best…
God, bless you!!!
What they don’t know can kill them. And you’re severing alot of things by not telling the truth. It makes things much worse, and you should tell them so they can help you.
Because you don’t deserve to hurt. Because it IS possible to deal with pain, fear, terror, lonilness, depression, anxiety in better ways. Because though in the short term you may feel better in the long term the self injury will get worse. More frequent, more severe. Because you deserve to have healthy relationships with yourself and others….but in the end it is your choice. Don’t you deserve better.
The comment above me read my mind^. Also, you’re wrong in saying it doesn’t hurt anyone but you. It does. It hurts the people around you, it makes them feel bad and guilty, because they love you and they don’t want you to hurt yourself for reasons you don’t deserve to. I realized that a long time ago. My friends, when they found out I SIed, would cry and beg me to stop. That’s when I saw that when I SIed, it wasn’t just hurting me, it was hurting my friends and family. That should be motivation enough to stop.
its NOT just hurting u. when u selfinjure you hurt your family, friends, and everyone else who knows u and cares about u. i know this b/c thru my own si i hav made friends with the same problem and it kills me to see the cuts and scars. u could try to use your loved ones as motivation to stop. tho i gotta tell u, its pretty impossible to quit completely until u realize that it IS bad for you and u want to quit for yourself.
I think you know in your heart that you are hurting a lot more people than just yourself. SIing is something that is sooo painful…not just to us…and I think it is hard for us to understand why our SIing hurts others. We have lost all shock value. We aren’t shocked or baffled by what we see…however, put yourself in someone else’s shoes…(your mum, your dad, etc….) imagine for once the pain they feel when they see what we have done to ourselves.
You also really have to be to the point where you WANT to stop…otherwise the people that are “pushing” you to stop aren’t going to get anywhere. It is like anything, unless you want to, you won’t. Ending your SIing can only be done by YOU. The first step towards it is YOU wanting help and admitting that there is something wrong. After taht then everyone around you will be able to be there to support you in your recovery!!! I am learning this first hand right now. This past weekend, I could have SIed everyday!!! I wanted to more than anything, anything to make it go away!!! But somehow I got through it, between God, my boyfriend, my bestfriends, my boss’s, my mum, mydogs, just me fighting myself…and meetings. I walked away from the weekend SI free…I don’t know about tomorrow, but today I am SI free…
When you are ready, you will have support…
YOU can get through this….
I wish you the best…
God, bless you!!!
thanks for commenting, but it doesnt hurt others because what they dont know can’t hurt them.
What they don’t know can kill them. And you’re severing alot of things by not telling the truth. It makes things much worse, and you should tell them so they can help you.
I know JUST how you feel! Even though there are times that I wish I could stop, I mostly just want people to leave me alone and let me SI.