I SIed yesterday and I realized that it’s not going to stop unless i do something, but because SIing is how i handle things when im just overwhelmed I dint know if I can stop. My parents dont know that I SI, but my momknows somethings wrong. She wants to know what it is because she wants to help but I cant bare to tell her. I can only imagine how hard it must be for a parnet to find out what their child is doing to themselves. I think i want to go to a group or something but how could i do that without them knowing. It comes down to wheather i should proclaim my problem or suffer silently. Your comments are definately welcome, I need all the help I can get!
Admitting you need help is the first step. If you know your mom is willing to help, then talk to her. It might not be easy for her to hear or even understand, but she will learn to understand later… as you learn there are other ways to cope other than to self-injure.
hi my name is ashley and ive told my mom!! it was really good to tell her. yeah it was hard news to take in and hear because the daughter she loves and would give anyting for is hurting herself because she hurts so badly inside. it helped and we sought help for me and she came to understand what was going on. tell your mom she will understand if you let her. i was told would you rather have her hear it from me or you? my advice i can give is to try to talk to her about it.
When I first told my mom about my SI, she was very sad. Yes, it is going to be hard for her to realize that one of her own children hurts themselves and there really isn’t a lot she can do about it, but she will be so relieve to hear that you want to tell her, and she will be glad that you DON’T have to suffer silently.
My advice is to tell, because she can get you all the help you could ever ask for.
Taylor
My mother found out by accident and it was a good thing because I got help. She may not understand what exactly you are going through and what brought you to this point, but like Cassandra said, if shes willing to help you out…thats a good thing. It won’t be easy because you’re her child and what parent wants to really hear that their child is hurting themselves. Whatever it is.
I agree with all of them. Please tell your mom. It took me awhile to tell my mom and i was terrified, but I’m so glad i did. Especially cause she wanted to help and it seems like your mom is willing to help too. Give her some credit, that she’s trying to fond out whats going on. I really encourage you to just tell her. It will be worth it in the end. Trust me. Plus from what i’ve heard from many people it would be better to tell, then for her to find out for herself.
Thank you guys for the advice, hopefully I can work up the nerve to tell her.
I definately understand how you feel. It’s hard to decide. I know I need help, but telling my parents would just make things worse for me, I guess. please let me know how it goes with your decision, whichever it is. My e-mail is h_grueninger08@yahoo.com. But I don’t check that often.. My aim is getatgrueninger as well.