Well everything that everyone has told me to do to start the dealing process just blew up in my face. I came to this site because i really didn’t know where else to go or who to talk to, the last chance sort of thing. Everyone kept telling me to “tell someone it helps find someone you trust and tell them”. well i did and i told someone i thought that i could trust. i told them everything and yeah they were freaked but they seemed to be trusting. then i was checking my email and my mom asked when did i start SIing and im so pissed right now i mean i cant trust anyone. my mom is already freaked because im in iraq and now this i really dont know what to do im 20 yrs old and im so afraid right now what do i do
well i just got out of military. i SI too. It is good to find someone who you trust, and Its hard to find those kind of people in the military. Is there any kind of mental health person there to talk to? I know they have them overthere but not sure if your around a base that has it. One thing though that i should warn you about. If the military knows about this, they may decide your suicidal…even if your not…they dont know much about SI so they automatically assume. They might take your weapon and cut your deployment short. and probably put you on a profile. Im not trying to scare you but it happened to me. but i wasnt deployed. I would talk to a chaplain, or in the mean time journal. keep yourself around people so that you dont SI. Try to find another outlet, do some pt. or play cards or something. what is making you SI right now? think about it and when you find the source try to make some changes if possible. email me if you want to chat.
meghanfedele@yahoo.com
What are you afraid that your mom can do? It’s difficult when you tell someone about your deepest issues, and tells another person, but maybe that person didn’t know how to handle what you told them. He/she cares about you and I think your mom cares too. It’s always hard for loved ones to hear about SI, and I have definitely felt really angry when other people told my parents about my issues when I didn’t want them to know.
I guess the question is now, what do you want to do? Since you aren’t living with your mom right now, you have the choice not to e-mail her back, or tell her that you’d like some time before discussing SI with her. With regards to the person you told–what did you want that person to do, to say?
Is there a way to get help without being penalized (assuming you are in the military?)
It’s really hard to let people know, but you did what you thought was best at the moment. You have the strength to get through these difficult times.