I’m trying to help friends here. One’s parents are split and this is her first Christmas like this. And since Christmas she hasn’t talked to me, and she won’t let me help her. And I don’t know how to make her talk to me. In the past 3 days I have sent her over 100 texts, calls, and emails. I don’t know what to think, or what to do, or how to handle this. Please, if you know what to do, spread the light some. I am afraid she is injuring herself.
I don’t know enough about your situation. Could you actually go over to see her?
Would that be too much assertiveness on my part. It’s been 4 days now, and still nothing from her.
Give her space. She’ll contact you when she needs you. You have to believe she is taking care of herself – not hurting herself. I know this is hard, but remember that self-injury is your friend’s personal choice… and that it is not your responsiblity. She knows you are there, which means a lot to her, but maybe you can physically go and see her?
Today being the 30th your situation could have changed, but if it hasn’t I have 2 suggestions and they are not pretty. Having been a self injurer for 20 years, yes, 20 years, I still find myself holing up in my room, but refraining from SI. Back to those suggestions, if you really think she is a danger to herself or others you can call the police to do a welfare check if she is still not responding. I know it sounds lousy right in the moment, but then you can know one way or the other if your friend is alright. Personally, I have gone through a similar situation and in the moment I was full of rage. Now looking back, my friends did the right thing/only thing at the time to get me help. Feel free to email me ari.mastro@gmail.com