I’m pretty sure this would be a good place to ask, since it is related.  I have two really good friends who have really terrible tendencies to purposfully cause harm to themselves, not necessarily phisically all the time, but emotionally and psychologically too.  They get into hopeless relationships that they know will eventually harm them, they purposely put themselves in destructive and dangerous situations, and they have fantasies about living lives with greater pain.  It’s this addiction to pain, when they say what they’re searching for is feeling.  That all they want to do is feel.  But what they want to feel is pain, and we all know they are masochistic, and that its terrible for their well being, and it only seems to get worse.  People in our society barely ever talk about masochists, but behind closed doors they exist everywhere.  And because of the way society is disgusted by and looks down on this problem, these people have an exceedingly hard time getting any help what so ever.  My friends are insistant on not talking to or telling anyone about this, except for a few of their closest friends, including me.  What can I and their other friends do to help discourage and prevent this subconcious and concious self distruction, when, sometimes my friends are barely even aware of the things they are doing to themselves?  I don’t know how to help them, and I can’t stand by and not do anything…