I came to a sudden realization on tuesday. Hurting myself isnt going to change the fact that;my mom had an affair;my parents divorced;i just lost three grandparents and my mom is currently dating the man that she had an affair with. All self harm does for me is hurt me. it may help me cope for a little while but a few  minutes later i will feel even worse. i have decided that i am DONE. I dont want to self harm any more. It took me almost four weeks in the S.A.F.E. program to realize this, but now im really going to stop. i have been SI free for eight days now and it is the longest time ive gon without SI since may.  I know its not very long but its a start. Right?