It seems that with me my life is so amazing and perfect one day and the next it is spiraling out of control. in less than a week. my ex boyfriend contacted me saying way hurtful things. my old love went to jail again. and my boyfriend dumped me out of no where. and now i am a mess and am falling apart. and want to breakdown and cry and hurt myself because i cannot take this pain anymore…help me….email me cady.elizabeth@gmail.com
please
Katee
forget about ur ex u dnt need him. dnt worry it gets better. forget guy went jail u dnt need him. if ur b/f end it its his loss im sure ur good person. as for ur ex whose mean it can lead to other things like tt how my ex was then he become abusive and raped me.
I understand what you are going through. My boyfriend of three years broke up with me 4 months ago and then we got back together 2 months ago and i thought it was going well but aparently it wasnt. I was at his house tonight and he said he wasnt happy anymore and that he didnt feel like we were going on the same way and that we were to different. I didnt even know that anything was wrong and out of no where he was like well this isnt working. I want to hurt myself and just give up but i probably shouldnt. I dont know what to do with myself b/c he was my life and now i have lost all of me. Email me and we can talk about stuff lilfinepug64@yahoo.com. Let me know what i can do i will listen to you and whatever you have to say.
Liz
Love is probably one of the hardest things in life to deal with, yet can be so amazing when given unconditionally.
You don’t have to let him hurt you anymore and maybe you could tell him that directly. Write him a handwritten letter, tell him you are through, which means you are through emotionally. You refuse to let him control you and that you are letting him go. Don’t let him have this power over you — he isn’t worth it!
Something I try and focus on is how I can still be a woman despite not having a man at my side. Men do not make me special, my faith makes me special. Men cannot make me happy, I have control over that. Men will not make me complete and as long as I try and believe it will take a man to make me whole, then it just shows my insecurities.
Relationships are meant to compliment each other, not leach off of each other. Relationships involving making a stronger team than when each person is alone, but not making each person individually weaker by deciding to form a bond. Healthy relationships require boundaries so that neither person is compromised.
Sorry to hear someone is hurting you like this. Stand up to him and tell him he can’t do this to you anymore because you are not giving him that power over you anymore, then drop the subject with him. If you need more help getting through the relationship, then do it privately – without him. You can talk to a parent, a friend, teacher, counselor, or pastor. You don’t need him to overcome him.