I haven’t injured for about five months now, i wondering if i can stop for good. My mother is extreamly proud of me and i’m very glad but she doesn’t tell me, she told my case worker that she was glad i was doing so well. I really wish she would tell me about how proud she was though because iwould know she noticed i was fighting the erge to injure.
Hi. I’m new here. I’m past menopause now, but I used to SI when I was young. Unfortunately, it’s nothing new.
I’m here because I still remember SI, and I want to do whatever I can to help people who have strong emotions and don’t know what to do with them (at least that was the case when I injured – when I was angry, and my anger felt as if it were bigger than me).
I learned that no emotion is bigger than me. At least, it doesn’t have to be. I’m not a parent or a therapist or medical professional. I am just here to see if there is anything I can do.
Emo_chick, if it helps, my mother didn’t talk to me about the scars on my hands (that T-shirt that says “But you don’t have a cat!” – that was the exact same story I told people!). Sometimes people just don’t know what to say but it’s not because they don’t care.
Validation from others is tricky for me. I would love it, but I don’t want to get it so easily that I start to think I need it to keep from self-harm. Because I really DON’T need it. I haven’t had a drink in 6 years, and though everyone was really pulling for me and I loved the pat on the backs I got at first, after a few years, people came to expect that I wouldn’t drink, and I no longer got the praise. If I had depended on the approval of others to stay sober, that would have been a dangerous situation.
The best thing anyone ever told me was to focus on today, not, “omg how am I going to go my whole life without SI again??”, because you don’t have to do that all at once. you just have to do it today.
My sponsor said: by the yard, it’s hard, but by the inch, it’s a cinch. she turned out to be right.
Yesterday is history, the future is a mystery, but today is a gift. That’s why we call it “the present.” 🙂
I’m reading this and it sounds preachy to me. I don’t mean to do that. If you find something good, take what you need and leave the rest 🙂
i think it’s possible
whatever you set ur mind to u kno?
congrats on the 5 months by the way!!
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I believe I can stop SI forever!! I am currently at 101 days, myself, and I want to believe I can stop SI and also stop self-injuring alltogether someday.
Getting validation from others is hard, this I know and am experiencing. I don’t know what to say to you about that — except keep on doing it for you. Sometimes I think my friends don’t know how to say they are proud of me for not injuring because they don’t want to make me feel uncomfortable or they don’t know if I have accidently had a slip-up or something. Some are still walking on eggshells, while some have completely run away.
Show others you are proud of yourself because you have every reason to be! Yay!! FIVE MONTHS IS HUGE!!!