I wonder if snapping a rubber band on my wrist can help me not injure?
I keep wondering why it is people say things that they dont mean. All that ever does is make things worse. My mom will yell at me then 2 minutes later say that all the mean things that she said, she never ment, but yet says it again the next day. If she rteally ment it when she said she didnt mean wht she said, wouldnt she stop??
My friend writes on here too, and she is trying to get better, and at the same time help me get better, and i do the same. We try helping each other get through all this. But I’m starting to think that when she and i talk about how we feel, and what goes on at home, that i am just making her more depressed, and making her want to injure more. Which in later terms makes me wanna injure more. I dont want to bring her down with me and i am afraid that thats wat i am doing. She emailed me a couple of days ago and told me that she doesnt want me and her being so depressed anymore, but im not helping her not be depressed. But there is just so much going on were its gard not being depressed. Between my home life, and finding out that my best friend may have a brain tomber, its so hard not to want to injure and depressed about everything. Im always scared to death about everything and now im afraid that my best friend may never be the same again. I mean he is the one ond only person that i have truely loved and knowing that he may have that issue, scares me and pushes me to want to injure. each day is getting harder and harder for me not to injure. I dont want to loose him or my other friend that writes on here, i want her to get better and for him to be ok, and for me and her get through this. But im starting to think that its impossible. Plez Help 🙁
I would say to not snap the rubber band anymore because it reinforces the idea in your brain that you need to do a physical action that brings pain to your body to deal with emotions. More healthy alternatives are reading, journaling, charting your urges in the moment, drawing, painting, going for a walk, talking to a friend, listening to music, taking a bubble bath, sleeping (if you’re tired), etc…
I can relate to the mom thing. She says horrible things to me that can relly make me mad and hurt me. She doesn’t seem to care, though.
I can also relate to your dilemma with your friend. My best friend doesn’t injure but she gets really depressed and anxious like me. I know it’s hard to hear but I think the best thing is that if you are really down or she is really down, it probably is better to stay away from each other. I’ve learned that the hard way. My best friend doesn’t mean to but she can really bring me down when she’s in depression mode. I’ve just learned to recognize when she’s like that and give her space until she feels more normal and then we can hang out.
Thankx…its hard you know?? cuz i wanna be there for her all the time and help her, but we hurt each other being being there. I mean i dont want to hurt her, but at the same time i know that she and i relate to one another so much that we are the only people that understand each other.
I know it’s the same with us. I usually want to be alone when I’m depressed and she’s the only one I can be around because I don’t have to fake anything. It’s also comforting that she knows how i feel. We just all have to watch out for signs of self-destructive behaviors and then end the visit. I know it’s easier said than done but I will try next time if you will.