i am 15 ill be 16 in a few weeks ive been injuring myself for almost a year now….i was doing good on my own for about 8mos it was easy for me to stop myself but for the last few mos its getting harder for me to stop i had it where i was injuring maybe 1 time a week now its good if i can go a day with out injuring more then 1 time my mom dont know that i injure and im scared to tell her about it im not sure what she will do i just wanna know if i should tell her and if so how do i tell her….
Welcome to the board. It is awesome that you posted here. Im not sure if its just you and your mom or you have siblings and a dad around. But try and find a time where you and your mom can just sit down. It can be at home or if you dont want to be at home try a coffe shop (not sure if you have starbucks but thats a good one) its usually quiet at these palces. Explain to her what you are going through like your feelings like whether you are upset, frustrated, or depressed or if its something else. Then explain to her cutting why you feel you need to do it. Tell her to let you explain first and tell all of what you need to say. This helps in a major way. She will have mixed emotions scared for you maybe frustrated she might be confused. But if you explain to her and you need to talk first to be able to explain she will have atleast that little bit of understanding. After you tell her let her talk then and tell you what she is feeling about it. And talk about what you can do to start fighting the battle to heal. Whether you need to get a counselor or psychologist (these cant offer the drugs) i prefer these better b/c i dont want to be dependent on drugs the rest of my life. Or maybe whether you just need to ask your mom to help you and be able to talk to her when you feel like you need to cut. Please try and form better habits for when you feel the need. Keep posting and let us know how things go. Good luck.
Liz
i have a mom dad and im the baby of 4kids thay are all older then me and have kids of there own me and my mom are never alone b/c we have to take care of my sisters 5yr old son witch is alot of my stress i am home schooled so i cant get aways from any of the stuff going on at home i dont have friends b/c when we moved 2yrs ago i was to busy with my sisters 5yr old to make friends i started cutter b/c of all the stress and the stress is getting worse so the cutting is getting worse i try not to let it drive me like it does but i cant stop myself anymore i feel like i need the cutting to get thru the day….
You need to ask your mom if you can see a counselor. This is gonna be really hard for your mom to hear so be gentle with her! Your mom loves you, but hearing that her daughter cuts herself will be super scary…she may freak out a little. But the most important thing is that you find help, and have someone you can talk to!!!! Fight to get that! I started cutting when I was 14, and I’m 30 now and still struggling. You do not want to end up like me!! Get help now!!! The longer you do S.I. the harder it is to stop. You are not weird or bad for cutting…it is a common way of coping with stress and intense feelings. But it is not a healthy way of coping, and it is going to cause you a ton of problems down the road if you don’t get help now. So I encourage you to tell your mom as gently as possible, and ask her to get you a good counselor to talk to. You deserve someone to help you!! Hang in there, and keep posting on this board…we’re here to support you!