I’ve been self mutilating since around7th or 8th grade. I am now a sophomore in high school. I have absolutely nothing wrong with my life. I have friends and a great family. I get good grades, take piano lessons, and I am in speech and debate. This is why I don’t understand why I injure. I feel like there must be something wrong with my brain. I really would like to stop. I cannot even change my clothes in front of my friends or walk around my house with short sleeves. And now that summer is coming up, I will not even be able to go swimming. I don’t want to stop, but I know that I need to. It is preventing me from doing the things that I could once do. I can’t go to a therapist because I can’t tell my parents. Obviously, I need help. But there is no way of getting it without my family knowing. Can I stop this on my own, or do I need to see a professional (which is not an option)?
I’m kind of confused. You say you have “absolutely nothing wrong with your life, and have a great family”, yet “there is no way you can tell your parents” that you S.I. What’s wrong with this picture?…You ask? “can I stop on my own”? Why would you want too? you have a “great family”…Parents write in all the time, desparate to help their S.I. child, but can’t, because their child, is too afraid to ask for help. Please try and talk to them, yes, they may get upset, because they probably care.
Actually, no, I don’t get it. I really don’t understand what point you are trying to make. And I feel like you are mocking me with your “quote on quotes”. What does having a good family have to do with anything?
And you make it sound sooo easy to just talk to my parents about it. Do understand that that would absolutely crush their world to know that they have raised a daughter who does this? This would make them feel like horrible parents. I don’t think you understood my question. I’m asking, “How do you stop on your own?” Meaning, with no one else involved. Including my parents.
you know what? never mind. this was stupid. i came across this site in desperate need of some help, but its just making it worse. Now it seems like a bigger deal than it was. I should really leave.
hey, i know what you mean. and i think you will need your parents help. i was in a similar situation where everything seemed perfect and there wasnt any “reason”. and you might be able to do it on your own. there are sites that have a bajillion diferent things to do instead of cutting. try those and for the first comment posted here…what on earth was that?
If you really want to stop on your own and you’re determined you may be able to. Try getting a copy of the book that outlines this program and do the assignments in it. Read through it. See what you can do. There’s plenty of places online that can help you along the way such as this site or support networks of people who have recovered or are trying to. Be wary of the sites that have people who just come on to explain how and why they hurt themselves and how horribly they did it. These sites have message boards that are frequently triggering and unhelpful.
Im sure the person who responded before was only trying to help. Your defensiveness to their response only shows how angry you are about this. You know its a problem or you wouldnt have come here and as hard as it is to hear what they said makes a lot of sense.
So what if your parents are upset that you do this? This isnt about them its about you and your well being and as a parent im sure all they want is your happiness and safety. Im sure theyd be more upset if you continued down this path for years without reaching out to someone. Just a thought.
Good luck.
Sarah