okay so i guess this thing is to help people who SI and whatnot.im having issues and could use some help and advice.im 17 almost 18.umm…dont call me “emo” i dont care if thats what you think about me.I’ve tried to stop injuring but then i get stressed out and thats the first thing that pops into my head.there is always something that triggers my urge to injure and that is men.not all men but these 3 guys.Josh,Kyle,and CJ.CJ and I dated on and off for like 2 or 3 years.He cheated on me and every time somebody says something about him I just want to hurt myself. Then you have Josh.Normally he keeps me from injuring but then I start thinking about the things that we went threw together and how he just called me up one night and said its over. I want to hurt myself. Then you have Kyle.I’ve liked Kyle for about a year or so.He said that I had to prove to him that I wanted him and I have.Then the other day we got into a HUGE fight and I just reached into my purse and pulled out my tool and hurt myself. I need help.I know I do.And its not just one tool I use.It’s anything that I can hurt myself with…. I completely forget the reason I injure in the first place.I know you guys probably think I’m some kind of freak.But if anybody has anything that they can tell me that will help please tell.im open for suggestions.
M.J.
you’re not alone, thts what sometimes helps me. just remembering tht im not alone.even though those guys might not act nice with u, u should know tht they love u…someway they do. im 14 years old started cutting when i just turned 13. something esle tht helps me controle the urge to cut is get a ruberband and put it around my wrist and just snap it against my wrist until it changes color. if not i have another suggestion, i live in colorado and wow we have tons of snow, so i just get my hands in it until it gets nubm (u could also just hold ice). after my hands r nubm get some red food coloring and squirt abunch in to your hands, slowly drizzle it around where u wanted to cut.
srry if this sounds stupid to u.
Hey Chica! Alright… whoa hunni… i dont know where to start! I have many guy troubles like yew! I am 13 and the guy i am with right now… well everyone is telling me he is just using me to get into my pants and stuff. Alright hun.. the best thing to do is to just take all yewr sharp objects… hold them in yewr hands… and say “Im Done” And then throw them all away! At least thats what i did and i havent cut myself since! I have about the same amount of cuts as yew on one arm and people call me “Emo” all the time and i know it does get pretty annoying! But hunni… even if u dnt wanna hear this its true… yew dont need a stupid guy to make yew feel complete! Yew have friends and family and thats all that should matter! Just be true to yewrself! Dont hurt yewrself over guys! They arent worth it! Trust me! Dont take it out on yewrself, expecially if its not yewr fault! Well i hope all gets better for yew sweetie! ~Emma
I am in the program now, and the best advice that i can give you is to get professional help. get to SAFE if you can, read the Bodily Harm book…. and know that you are not alone. I am 27 and just dealing with this now. don’t wait. the first step is to admit that you have a problem and ask for help. you can contact me if you have any questions….
guys are the things that get us to SI most. would SI because of guys a lot. it was mostly that i could never get a guy to like me or even love me because i hate how i look and i assume that everyone else does too. guys really suck! there’s a person out there for everyone. God put us here for something other than the fact that He was bored! i have many injuries and i’m 12 years old and in 7th grade. we both have a lot of life ahead of us, along with everyone here. dont shorten ur time on earth by SI over guys. we all care about you!
I did the intake for S.A.F.E. Alternatives yesterday (4/4) and taking to the person who was doing it made me realize that my therapist/psychiatrist was right I took over the abuse that my whole family put me through. It made me realize that I was also right about one thing injuring is the only way I knew how to cope with my problems going up. I know that I’m an adult right now and should have grown out of it, but I still injure myself to get some relief from the world outside when it gets too tough.