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S.A.F.E. Alternatives App

Posted by karenceo | February 3rd, 2015


The S.A.F.E. Alternatives iTunes App has been updated, and is working. To view the App, click the iTune icon above.

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S.A.F.E. Adult Program OPEN, spaces available in Adolescent Program as well

Posted by Pam L. | October 9th, 2012

It is with great joy that we are announcing the re-opening of the S.A.F.E. Alternatives program for adults.  The program is also currently open for Adolescents.  If you are interested in coming to the program Рplease contact us at or you may also call 800-366-8288 and leave a voicemail message with your information for us to call/text/email you back.  

Both programs are located near St. Louis, MO and people often come from out of state for treatment.  The program is a 30 day residential program.    We look forward to hearing from you, we know the wait has been long Рand we are so excited to be able to make this announcement finally!



Dr. Wendy Lader and Karen Conterio on radio show

Posted by Pam L. | August 12th, 2010

Hello all,

During August, 2010 Karen Conterio and Dr. Wendy Laders, co-founders of the S.A.F.E. Alternatives program, were on the “Your Life Matters” show.¬† Click here to listen:¬†¬† There is information about the book “Bodily Harm” and general information about self injury.

Thanks!    Pam

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Workshops for Family and Friends

Posted by S.A.F.E. Alternatives Blog | January 16th, 2009

Workshops for Family and Friends:

We are in the process of creating educational workshops for family and friends of¬†those who¬†are engaging in self-injurious behaviors.¬† We would appreciate¬†learning¬†about any¬†questions¬†you might have about self-injury¬†in general or even more specific concerns, such as “How do I respond when someone I care about_________________________?” (fill in the blank)

…. Also,¬†¬†Self-injurers… please let us know what you would like us to teach your parents, friends or other loved ones about self-injury and how they can best¬†respond to your needs.¬† What works and what doesn’t work?

Please e-mail as many questions as you would like to  We hope to make these workshops available ONLINE in the next month or two. The schedule will be posted on this website.  If you would like to be notified when they become available, please indicate your interest in an e-mail and we will be happy to notify you.


Wendy Lader, M.Ed., Ph.D.
President, S.A.F.E. Alternatives

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Posted by S.A.F.E. Alternatives Blog | August 14th, 2008

If you speak Spanish and English, have a history of self injuring, and would like to be interviewed for print media, please contact us at: or call 708-366-9066 or 800-366-8288.

Thank you.

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Posted by PJzBtrFly | August 4th, 2008

Long story short, I am 31 years old, have injured since I was five.¬† I started working through the SAFE program through the Bodily Harm book, and after a few years, I became injury free.¬† I am happy to say that to this day, I have been injury free for five years now.¬† This is the longest I have ever been without injuring, but I still have thoughts and urges to injure.¬† Sometimes those urges are so strong that I almost give into them.¬† My Pastor helped me work through the program as part of the program, we set a date that when I reached it injury free, I would receive a ring, a promise ring.¬† When I get my thoughts and urges, I always reach for my ring and think about the day I received it and how I got to where I am now, and how I have come so far and I don’t want to loose that progress, that has kept me from falling back on injuring, but it hasn’t changed the fact that I still struggle with the urges and thoughts.¬† Is this normal?¬† I don’t know anyone else who has been injury free to ask them.¬† I just found this blog today, I have not visited the SAFE site for years, so I am glad that I found it now!¬† Please let me know what you think.¬† Thank you….


S.A.F.E. Focus Groups

Posted by S.A.F.E. Alternatives Blog | May 16th, 2008

S.A.F.E. Focus‚ĄĘ¬† Would you like to start a self help group for Self Injury?¬† S.A.F.E. Focus‚ĄĘ is a voluntary support group which utilizes guidelines developed by the S.A.F.E. ALTERNATIVES¬ģ Program.¬†¬† Follow the links to learn about Leader and Participant manuals.¬†

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