This is a "trigger-free" site. Please do not use language containing graphic descriptions of Self Injurious behaviors. Words such as self injury, self harm, and the initials S.I. will be approved. Be mindful of swear words which are inappropriate and offensive to minors and others. This site is monitored and anyone found to continually violate these conditions will be removed from this entire blog site. Please follow S.A.F.E. A LTERNATIVES' philosophy and help us maintain a "trigger-free" blog. Thank you.

If you have thoughts of suicide call: 911, 800 - SUICIDE (784-2433), or go to the nearest emergency room.

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Posted by Pam L. | March 28th, 2017

Hi all,

As one of the blog moderators, I am aware this blog isn’t being used very often. ¬†I’m often sad when I see people reach out for help, and my hope is that people will respond and offer support. ¬†That’s what this blog is here for. ¬†I’ve been proud to see people use it as a safe place to talk and reach out for support when they needed it.

It seems that we need to likely change this format because of lack of use. ¬†I would encourage people to reach out via the SAFE Facebook page or the email address as needed. ¬†I’m not sure when the changes will take place, but I wanted to offer people some warning, in case there are those who still come here seeking some support. ¬†Please know we read all your words, and you are not alone. ¬†We hope people keep reaching out for support – help is available, if not in one place, then go to another. ¬†We ALL need help now and then.

Best wishes to you all.

The Team at S.A.F.E. Alternatives

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I hope…….

Posted by Pam L. | November 8th, 2015

Hello all,

I’m one of the blog moderators, and I’m noticing that the blog is not very active these days. ¬†My favorite thing about this blog is that it’s a safe place on the internet for people to go and ¬†be able to give and receive some support. ¬†There are so many places on line that are graphic and can be triggering, and yet, so few that truly help to support people and encourage positive support without being triggering.

I’d love to respond to each person and often feel as if I should – but I keep reminding myself that it’s not my blog or SAFE Alternatives’ place to go for support or to give support solely. ¬†It’s for you all to support each other.

To newer blog members РWelcome!  Keep reaching out for help because you are NOT alone.

Best wishes to everyone and I hope you’ll keep on writing. ¬†Everyone needs support now and then, every.single.person.

Pam L.

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S.A.F.E. Alternatives App

Posted by karenceo | February 3rd, 2015


The S.A.F.E. Alternatives iTunes App has been updated, and is working. To view the App, click the iTune icon above.

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There is hope, you are not alone

Posted by Pam L. | August 12th, 2014

We are deeply saddened by the death of Robin Williams. When many media reports focus on the issue of suicide, it can often bring up painful memories for suicide loss survivors, and can increase feelings of hopelessness in those who experience depression.

Please remember that you are not alone. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help – but we hope you will remember we ALL need help now and then. Every single life has value.

Please remember to take care of yourself and your loved ones in the coming days. If you or someone you know is struggling please contact the 24/7 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Please also feel free to share your feelings about this great loss here. ¬†Sometimes, hiding behind the biggest smile, is such great sadness. ¬†We hope you won’t hide your feelings, but that you’ll reach out.



Self Injury Awareness Day 2014

Posted by Pam L. | February 20th, 2014

Please join us in St. Louis, MO as we honor Self Injury Awareness day on February 28, 2014.

Please click on this link for more information:

We hope you are able to join us, or let us know how you plan to honor Self Injury Awareness Day. ¬†It can be by learning more about the subject, making it a goal NOT to injure yourself in anyway on that day, educating others about the subject, or even reaching out for help. ¬†We’d love to hear your way of honoring this day.


S.A.F.E. Alternatives Staff

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Posted by Pam L. | December 30th, 2013

Holidays and the end of the year can be very busy and stressful times. ¬†Especially if you struggle with self injury. ¬†Seeing family can be good, but also very difficult. ¬†I hope some of you will share your holiday experiences – good or not so good. ¬†You may self injure and feel extremely alone. ¬†That’s what I love about this blog – it’s a place to come and know you’re not alone. ¬†People of all ages self injure. ¬†I hope everyone can find some support they need here. ¬† Because you, yes Y O U, are not alone. ¬†The best way out of your problems – is through your problems, and doing that with others beside you is something each and everyone person needs.

I hope some of you will share your experiences.


(one of the blog moderators)

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Online info and Support for PARENTS of youth who self injure

Posted by Pam L. | July 19th, 2013

Review Healing Forward: An Online Information and Support Program for Parents of Youth who Self-Injure

Are you or someone you know a parent of a teenager between the ages of 12-20 years old who self-injures without the intention of committing suicide?  (Please note, forms and survey may contain triggering language).



Thank you.

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Additional blog safety – an FYI

Posted by Pam L. | July 9th, 2013

Hi All,

I wrote about this in my other post from SAFE, but wanted you all to be aware there will be more secure steps for when you log onto the blog and make posts/comments. ¬†Again, this is for your safety and privacy. ¬†There has been a lot of computer generated spam coming into the blog recently (we take it down before it gets posted). ¬†We don’t want to risk anyone’s privacy, so we are going to add steps to be sure people are posting – and it’s not computers generating advertising, etc.

I apologize if it’s frustrating to any of you – we value each and every post that comes into the blog and hope you’ll stick with us during this security upgrade :) . ¬†Thanks all! ¬†This was put into place today.

Pam – Blog Moderator

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Trigger Free Guidelines/explanation, and small change coming to blog

Posted by Pam L. | June 28th, 2013

Hello folks :) ,

There are two reasons I’m posting this today. ¬†One, is that due to an increase in computerized spam coming being directed to the blog (which you don’t see because the moderators delete it all) – there may be some increased security in logging on. ¬†I apologize for the annoyance of that, but it has increased so much lately, that it has become necessary to add this level of verification. ¬†It is for everyone’s safety and anonymity that we are doing this.

Also, there are quite a few new members of the blog, so I thought I‚Äôd put a refresher post here to remind everyone about our trigger free guidelines (I’m actually re-posting an old post, we do this a one or two times a year). A long time ago we asked folks if they wanted us to moderate the blog for ‚Äútriggering content‚ÄĚ ‚Äď and the bloggers voted for us to do that. There are very few ‚ÄĚtrigger free‚ÄĚ places on the internet. We want this blog to be safe for everyone to read, and that means not using words that will trigger other people to want to injure.

If by some chance you need a number for a crisis line, you can always call:¬† 800.273.TALK or the Teen hotline:¬† 877-332-7333 – both are answered 24/7. ¬†If you want more information about the S.A.F.E. program you may also call our information line (we would LOVE to be able to answer this line live, but we are unable to) – you’d leave a message and we do our best to call back within 24 business hours. ¬†That number is 800-366-8288.

Please know that using specific terms for injuring, describing things in graphic terms, trying to put up posts written in red ‚Äď are all things we can‚Äôt allow. Talking about the number of times or where you injure yourself are also things we do not post. ¬†Graphic poetry can be a very helpful outlet for people to use, but again, we cannot post that content here.

There are times and places where it is so helpful to be graphic ‚Äď such as with a therapist, or in a place where it won‚Äôt be potentially harmful to others. I‚Äôm sure there are many other sites where people can be openly graphic. This is just not that kind of place. I know that we have some people on the blog as young as 11 and we want to keep the site safe for them also. Again, our goal is to help you all stay safe if you choose to do so. Self injury is a choice, and everyone needs some help and support to overcome it. We hope anyone who wants it can find support here.

If I haven‚Äôt stated this all clearly, or you‚Äôre confused by it, please read the book ‚ÄúBodily Harm‚ÄĚ and you‚Äôll learn more about SAFE‚Äôs philosophy about these things. ¬†Feel free to ask questions as comments to this also. Thanks, WELCOME and to all of you, keep on blogging! :-)


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Blog Guidelines – If you’re feeling Suicidal

Posted by Pam L. | June 28th, 2013

As¬†the moderators of the SAFE Blog, once in a while we like to re-post the blog guidelines so that new people can see them. ¬† We haven’t done this in a while, so I wanted to take the time to do so today. ¬†In case there are people who are a part of this blog who are feeling suicidal, please know that this is a big concern to our team at S.A.F.E.¬† We hope everyone who feels this way will call the 800 number (800-SUICIDE or 800-273-TALK)¬†listed at the top of each blog page or go to your nearest emergency room.¬† We also hope you‚Äôll reach out to a therapist/counselor or any adult you feel you can trust.¬† There is always someone willing to listen ‚Äď 800-273-TALK.¬† You are worth fighting for and we hope you‚Äôve joined our blog because you want to fight for your life and get some support for yourself.

You all may wonder why we try to avoid posting things specifically about feeling highly suicidal. ¬†Your life and safety are our hightest priority. ¬†Our hope is that you will not blog about such a serious¬†and life threatening urge and potentially not get a quick response that is needed in such situations, but that you‚Äôll ‚Äď again ‚Äď reach out and talk to someone face to face or at least on the phone.¬† Our goal is not to trigger anyone on our blog to injure or encourage suicidal feelings.¬† Talking about how you‚Äôre feeling ‚Äď sad, depressed, angry, frustrated, happy or any other feeling is¬†ALWAYS encouraged and supported.¬†¬† But if¬† you write about feeling suicidal and/or specific ways you‚Äôd like to hurt yourself, chances are that we may not be able to post that blog.¬† We apologize for any frustration that may cause ‚Äď we simply want to ensure that you are most able to get and receive direct, face-to-face support for such an important thing as being suicidal.

I hope this makes sense.  Feel free to ask questions if you have them.

The Blog moderators

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